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Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F) 11:00 am
Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F)
Nov 2 @ 11:00 am – 11:45 am
Show up with your little ones (birth to 4 years) and spend time with other parents. Join us to celebrate Havdalah on Mondays and as we prepare to welcome Shabbat on Fridays. Enjoy music, stories, puppets, … Continued
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Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F) 11:00 am
Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F)
Nov 4 @ 11:00 am – 11:45 am
Show up with your little ones (birth to 4 years) and spend time with other parents. Join us to celebrate Havdalah on Mondays and as we prepare to welcome Shabbat on Fridays. Enjoy music, stories, puppets, … Continued
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music 7:30 pm
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music
Nov 4 @ 7:30 pm – 7:40 pm
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music with Cantor Arik Luck. Facebook Live.
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Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F) 11:00 am
Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F)
Nov 6 @ 11:00 am – 11:45 am
Show up with your little ones (birth to 4 years) and spend time with other parents. Join us to celebrate Havdalah on Mondays and as we prepare to welcome Shabbat on Fridays. Enjoy music, stories, puppets, … Continued
One Shabbat Service (11/6/2020) 6:00 pm
One Shabbat Service (11/6/2020)
Nov 6 @ 6:00 pm – 6:45 pm
Shabbat service led by Rabbi Beth Singer and Cantor Arik Luck. Click here to watch on our website livestream page. Or click here to participate via Facebook Live, you don't have to join Facebook to participate. … Continued
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Torah Study (with Rabbi Jonathan Singer – 11/7/2020) 9:15 am
Torah Study (with Rabbi Jonathan Singer – 11/7/2020)
Nov 7 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with Rabbi Jonathan Singer, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
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Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F) 11:00 am
Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F)
Nov 9 @ 11:00 am – 11:45 am
Show up with your little ones (birth to 4 years) and spend time with other parents. Join us to celebrate Havdalah on Mondays and as we prepare to welcome Shabbat on Fridays. Enjoy music, stories, puppets, … Continued
Lies and Miracles: Kristallnacht Commemoration 6:00 pm
Lies and Miracles: Kristallnacht Commemoration
Nov 9 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Annual Kristallnacht Commemoration (via Zoom)Lies and Miracles: Childhood in a Siberian Labor Camp Film discussion and Q&A featuring congregant George LandauTiburon resident and a member of Congregation Emanu-El, George Landau and his family spent several years as … Continued
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Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F) 11:00 am
Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F)
Nov 11 @ 11:00 am – 11:45 am
Show up with your little ones (birth to 4 years) and spend time with other parents. Join us to celebrate Havdalah on Mondays and as we prepare to welcome Shabbat on Fridays. Enjoy music, stories, puppets, … Continued
Men’s Group Virtual Meeting: Torah and the Jewish vote 5:00 pm
Men’s Group Virtual Meeting: Torah and the Jewish vote
Nov 11 @ 5:00 pm – 6:00 pm
Men of Congregation Emanu-El have a monthly opportunity to socialize and study with a member of the clergy at a private home. This cross-generational group provides a small group experience so important to building community. Our … Continued
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music 7:30 pm
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music
Nov 11 @ 7:30 pm – 7:40 pm
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music with Cantor Marsha Attie. Facebook Live.
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Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F) 11:00 am
Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F)
Nov 13 @ 11:00 am – 11:45 am
Show up with your little ones (birth to 4 years) and spend time with other parents. Join us to celebrate Havdalah on Mondays and as we prepare to welcome Shabbat on Fridays. Enjoy music, stories, puppets, … Continued
Community Candle Lighting (Young Adult) 5:45 pm
Community Candle Lighting (Young Adult)
Nov 13 @ 5:45 pm – 6:00 pm
Are you Zoom’d out? So are we! Join YALC and clergy as we begin our weekend together with a 15-minute Shabbat gathering – candles, wine, challah, DONE! To better meet the needs of our community, we’re … Continued
One Shabbat Service (11/13/2020) 6:00 pm
One Shabbat Service (11/13/2020)
Nov 13 @ 6:00 pm – 6:45 pm
Shabbat service led by Rabbi Ryan Bauer and Cantor Marsha Attie. Click here to watch on our website livestream page. Or click here to participate via Facebook Live, you don't have to join Facebook to participate. … Continued
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Torah Study (with Rabbi Beth Singer – 11/14/2020) 9:15 am
Torah Study (with Rabbi Beth Singer – 11/14/2020)
Nov 14 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study (with Rabbi Beth Singer - 11/14/2020) @ Via Zoom
Torah Study with Rabbi Beth Singer, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. Rabbi Beth will focus on Rabbi Jonathan Sacks' interpretation of the Chaye Sarah, about the death of Sarah. Rabbi Beth will also … Continued
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Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F) 11:00 am
Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F)
Nov 16 @ 11:00 am – 11:45 am
Show up with your little ones (birth to 4 years) and spend time with other parents. Join us to celebrate Havdalah on Mondays and as we prepare to welcome Shabbat on Fridays. Enjoy music, stories, puppets, … Continued
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Torah on Tap: Modern Ideas of God (Young Adult Program) 6:00 pm
Torah on Tap: Modern Ideas of God (Young Adult Program)
Nov 17 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Grab your beverage of choice (kombucha, beer, or whatever floats your boat!) and join Emanu-El’s Young Adult Community for a deep discussion on a Jewish topic or text guided by Rabbi Rodich on November 17 … Continued
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Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F) 11:00 am
Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F)
Nov 18 @ 11:00 am – 11:45 am
Show up with your little ones (birth to 4 years) and spend time with other parents. Join us to celebrate Havdalah on Mondays and as we prepare to welcome Shabbat on Fridays. Enjoy music, stories, puppets, … Continued
Birth is a Beginning, Death a Destination 12:00 pm
Birth is a Beginning, Death a Destination
Nov 18 @ 12:00 pm – 1:00 pm
Birth is a Beginning and Death a Destination: A three-week course on Jewish practices around end of life, burial and family memory. Wednesdays, November 18, 25; December 2 from 12 – 1pm via Zoom. December 6 is … Continued
November Jewish Book Club (Young Adult Program) 6:00 pm
November Jewish Book Club (Young Adult Program)
Nov 18 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Join the Young Adult Community in a discussion of two pieces of work exploring the intersection of Black and Jewish identity:(1) Afro-Brazilian Jewish Women: "Caught in the Crossfire" by Abby Gondek(2) Bad for the Jews? … Continued
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music 7:30 pm
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music
Nov 18 @ 7:30 pm – 7:40 pm
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music with Cantor Marsha Attie. Facebook Live.
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Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F) 11:00 am
Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F)
Nov 20 @ 11:00 am – 11:45 am
Show up with your little ones (birth to 4 years) and spend time with other parents. Join us to celebrate Havdalah on Mondays and as we prepare to welcome Shabbat on Fridays. Enjoy music, stories, puppets, … Continued
One Shabbat Service (11/20/2020) 6:00 pm
One Shabbat Service (11/20/2020)
Nov 20 @ 6:00 pm – 6:45 pm
Shabbat service led by Rabbi Sarah Joselow Parris and Cantor Arik Luck. Click here to watch on our website livestream page. Or click here to participate via Facebook Live, you don't have to join Facebook to … Continued
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Torah Study (with Rabbi Jonathan Singer – 11/21/2020) 9:15 am
Torah Study (with Rabbi Jonathan Singer – 11/21/2020)
Nov 21 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with Rabbi Jonathan Singer, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
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Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F) 11:00 am
Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F)
Nov 23 @ 11:00 am – 11:45 am
Show up with your little ones (birth to 4 years) and spend time with other parents. Join us to celebrate Havdalah on Mondays and as we prepare to welcome Shabbat on Fridays. Enjoy music, stories, puppets, … Continued
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Offices close at 3:30 pm 8:30 am
Offices close at 3:30 pm
Nov 25 @ 8:30 am – 3:30 pm
 
Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F) 11:00 am
Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F)
Nov 25 @ 11:00 am – 11:45 am
Show up with your little ones (birth to 4 years) and spend time with other parents. Join us to celebrate Havdalah on Mondays and as we prepare to welcome Shabbat on Fridays. Enjoy music, stories, puppets, … Continued
Soothe Your Soul with Cantor Marsha Attie – November 25 7:30 pm
Soothe Your Soul with Cantor Marsha Attie – November 25
Nov 25 @ 7:30 pm – 7:45 pm
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music with Cantor Marsha Attie. Facebook Live.
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Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F) 11:00 am
Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F)
Nov 27 @ 11:00 am – 11:45 am
Show up with your little ones (birth to 4 years) and spend time with other parents. Join us to celebrate Havdalah on Mondays and as we prepare to welcome Shabbat on Fridays. Enjoy music, stories, puppets, … Continued
One Shabbat Service (11/27/2020) 6:00 pm
One Shabbat Service (11/27/2020)
Nov 27 @ 6:00 pm – 6:45 pm
Shabbat service led by Rabbi Jonathan Singer and Cantor Marsha Attie. Click here to watch on our website livestream page. Or click here to participate via Facebook Live, you don't have to join Facebook to participate. … Continued
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Torah Study (with Rabbi Jonathan Singer – 11/28/2020) 9:15 am
Torah Study (with Rabbi Jonathan Singer – 11/28/2020)
Nov 28 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with Rabbi Jonathan Singer, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
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Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F) 11:00 am
Mimi’s Music and Fun Group – (M,W,F)
Nov 30 @ 11:00 am – 11:45 am
Show up with your little ones (birth to 4 years) and spend time with other parents. Join us to celebrate Havdalah on Mondays and as we prepare to welcome Shabbat on Fridays. Enjoy music, stories, puppets, … Continued
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Shiva Minyan Information

Attending a shiva (morning ritual) is a mitzvah (commandment). The mitzvah is to go to a house of mourning, to comfort the bereaved, and to assure that there will be a minyan of ten people to recite the Kaddishmemorial prayer. Performing this mitzvah is one of the highest honors a person can do for another in our community. It is not necessary that you know the deceased or the mourner for your presence to help in comforting the mourners as they grieve and heal.

The focus of a person attending a shiva minyan is to provide comfort and support for the mourner.

The rabbis are very clear that a visitor’s main job is “being there” for the mourner. A visitor is not expected to say anything because there are no appropriate words to be said. It is traditional to bring food, either prepared by you or store bought.  Food represents life, and we embrace and talk of life in the face of death. It is not traditional to bring liquor, candy, or flowers. In addition it is customary to make a donation (tzedakah) to a charity in honor of the person who has passed away. To make a donation to Congregation Emanu-El in memory of an individual you may do so here or you may contact the Development Office at (415) 750-7554.

Practical Tips*

Just walk in

Do not ring the doorbell. The front door of most shiva homes will be left open or unlocked, eliminating the need for the mourners to answer the door.

Take food to the kitchen

If you are bringing food, take it to the kitchen. Be sure to put your name on a card or on the container so that the mourners will know you made the gift.

Find the mourners

Go to the mourners as soon as possible.

What do you say?

The tradition suggests being silent, allowing the mourner to open the conversation.

It is appropriate to offer a hug, a kiss, or handshake.

If you do want to open a conversation, begin with “I’m so sorry” or “I don’t know what to say. ”

Speak about the deceased, because one of the most powerful ways to comfort mourners is to encourage them to remember who they have lost. This can be done by recalling a personal memory of the deceased.

Do not tell people not to cry or that they will get over it. Crying and being sad is an integral part of the normal grieving process. If a person cries, your job is just to be there with them you are not expected to say anything.

Participate in the service

If a prayer service is conducted, participate to the extent you can. If you do not know the service, sit or stand respectfully while it is in progress. Often times the rabbi or leader will invite people to share memories about the deceased, do not hesitate to share one, even if it is somewhat humorous. The entire purpose of shiva is to focus on the life of the person who has died and his or her relationship to the family and friends in that room.

Talk to your friends

You may see other friends and acquaintances at a house of mourning. You might be tempted to shmooze about sports or politics, but always remember the purpose of the shiva is to comfort the mourners. You are in the home to be a member of the community and the most appropriate topic of conversation is the deceased. Recall your memories about the deceased and share them. If you feel tempted to engage in small talk, don’t judge yourself; just remind yourself why you are present at the shiva.

Leaving a Shiva House

When you are ready to leave, you may want to wish the bereaved good health and strength, comfort, and other blessings.

After the Shiva

Check in with the mouner; after some months have passed, ask the mourner how he or she is feeling. Ask about a memory of the deceased.

*adapted from http://www.myjewishlearning.com/life/Life_Events/Death_and_Mourning/ Burial_and_Mourning/Shiva/How_to_Make_a_Shiva_Call.shtml

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