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Tot Shabbat – (9/2/2022) 5:00 pm
Tot Shabbat – (9/2/2022)
Sep 2 @ 5:00 pm – 6:00 pm
ALL kids 6 and under, their adults and older siblings are welcome, free of charge. We’ll start with a simple kid’s dinner & teen-led activities at 5:00 pm in our beautiful courtyard. Then, join us in … Continued
Elul Shabbat Services (Elul Siddur/Shofar blowing) 6:00 pm
Elul Shabbat Services (Elul Siddur/Shofar blowing)
Sep 2 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Friday Night Elul Shabbat Services this Friday, September 2nd at 6:00 pm!Led by Rabbi Jason Rodich with Cantor Marsha Attie.For the month of Elul we are using a special prayerbook.To best … Continued
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Clergy-Led Torah Study (9/3/2022) 9:15 am
Clergy-Led Torah Study (9/3/2022)
Sep 3 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with a member of our Clergy, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
Shabbat Morning Service – Octavia Pell (Meyer) 10:30 am
Shabbat Morning Service – Octavia Pell (Meyer)
Sep 3 @ 10:30 am – 12:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Shabbat Morning Services in our Martin Meyer Sanctuary along with one of our b'nei mitzvah celebrants! To best ensure we can provide a safe and sacred experience, please note the following: Service will … Continued
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Labor Day 12:00 am
Labor Day
Sep 5 @ 12:00 am – 11:59 pm
Office closed.
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Elul Shabbat Services (Elul Siddur/Shofar blowing) 6:00 pm
Elul Shabbat Services (Elul Siddur/Shofar blowing)
Sep 9 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Friday Night Elul Shabbat Services this Friday, September 9th at 6:00 pm!Led by Rabbis Sarah Joselow Parris and Ryan Bauer with Cantor Arik Luck.For the month of Elul we are using … Continued
September Late Shabbat 8:00 pm
September Late Shabbat
Sep 9 @ 8:00 pm – 11:00 pm
Join Jewish young adults from around the Bay for Congregation Emanu-El's Late Shabbat!  A festive evening of community-building, spiritual connection, and incredible music. Schmoozing and wine start at 8pm / services begin at 8:30pm / oneg with tacos, drinks, and … Continued
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Clergy-Led Torah Study (9/10/2022) 9:15 am
Clergy-Led Torah Study (9/10/2022)
Sep 10 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with a member of our Clergy, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
Shabbat Morning Service – M. Moskowitz and B. Elson(Meyer) 10:30 am
Shabbat Morning Service – M. Moskowitz and B. Elson(Meyer)
Sep 10 @ 10:30 am – 12:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Shabbat Morning Services in our Martin Meyer Sanctuary along with our b'nei mitzvah celebrants! To best ensure we can provide a safe and sacred experience, please note the following: Service will be in … Continued
Shabbat Morning Service – Sophie Fluhr(Main) 10:30 am
Shabbat Morning Service – Sophie Fluhr(Main)
Sep 10 @ 10:30 am – 12:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Shabbat Morning Services in our Main Sanctuary along with one of our b'nei mitzvah celebrants! To best ensure we can provide a safe and sacred experience, please note the following: Service will be … Continued
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Elul Shabbat Services (Elul Siddur/Shofar blowing) 6:00 pm
Elul Shabbat Services (Elul Siddur/Shofar blowing)
Sep 16 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Friday Night Elul Shabbat Services this Friday, September 16th at 6:00pm!Led by Rabbis Beth Singer and Jason Rodich with Cantor Marsha Attie.For the month of Elul we are using a special … Continued
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Clergy-Led Torah Study (9/17/2022) 9:15 am
Clergy-Led Torah Study (9/17/2022)
Sep 17 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with a member of our Clergy, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
Shabbat Morning Service – Bailey Tulchin (Main) 10:30 am
Shabbat Morning Service – Bailey Tulchin (Main)
Sep 17 @ 10:30 am – 12:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Shabbat Morning Services in our Main Sanctuary along with one of our b'nei mitzvah celebrants! To best ensure we can provide a safe and sacred experience, please note the following: Service will be … Continued
HHD 2022 – S’lichot Program and Service 7:00 pm
HHD 2022 – S’lichot Program and Service
Sep 17 @ 7:00 pm – 9:00 pm
Join Emanu-El in partnership with ACT and Grace Cathedral for a reading of short plays written by Ukrainian theatre artists. This evening is part of a worldwide effort to support Ukraine and the artists whose … Continued
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HHD 2022 – The Tribe for Men: Mikvah with Rabbi Bauer 5:00 am
HHD 2022 – The Tribe for Men: Mikvah with Rabbi Bauer
Sep 18 @ 5:00 am – 8:00 am
The High Holy Days are a time where we open ourselves up and look deep inside our souls to examine who we have been and who we want to be. We confront who we are … Continued
HHD 2022 – Women’s Mikvah with Cantor Attie (9/18/2022) 8:30 am
HHD 2022 – Women’s Mikvah with Cantor Attie (9/18/2022)
Sep 18 @ 8:30 am – 9:30 am
Rosh Hashanah is a time of reflection, return and new beginnings. Please join us for our beautiful annual ritual of mikvah including meditation, chanting and immersion in the incredible Pacific Ocean at Baker Beach. Please bring warm … Continued
HHD 2022 – Ark Moments (9/18/2022) 1:00 pm
HHD 2022 – Ark Moments (9/18/2022)
Sep 18 @ 1:00 pm – 2:30 pm
ARK MOMENTS Sunday, September 18 from 1:00 – 2:30 pm.Open House style. We invite all member households to join us for a special way of coming together in our sanctuary.Our rabbis will be available to … Continued
Teach-In on Reparations 2:00 pm
Teach-In on Reparations
Sep 18 @ 2:00 pm – 4:00 pm
Congregation Emanu-El is Proud to Co-Sponsor:San Francisco Black & Jewish Unity Coalition's Teach-In on Reparations for African Americans in California and San FranciscoSunday, September 182:00 p.m.-4:00 p.m. PacificIn-person at Congregation Sherith Israel and VirtualAdmission is … Continued
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Elul Shabbat Services (Elul Siddur/Shofar blowing) 6:00 pm
Elul Shabbat Services (Elul Siddur/Shofar blowing)
Sep 23 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Friday Night Elul Shabbat Services this Friday, September 23rd at 6:00pm!Led by Rabbi Jonathan Singer with Rabbinical Student and Director of Youth and Family Education Leo Fuchs and Cantor Marsha Attie.For … Continued
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Clergy-Led Torah Study (9/24/2022) 9:15 am
Clergy-Led Torah Study (9/24/2022)
Sep 24 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with a member of our Clergy, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
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HHD 2022 – Sounds of the Shofar: Children’s ERH Svc (9/25) 5:00 pm
HHD 2022 – Sounds of the Shofar: Children’s ERH Svc (9/25)
Sep 25 @ 5:00 pm – 5:30 pm
Sounds of the Shofar: Children’s Erev Rosh HaShanah ServiceLed by Rabbis Beth Singer, Jonathan Singer, Jason Rodich, and Sydney Mintz. Jonathan Bayer on music.*This service will be in person for members; no livestream. To best … Continued
HHD 2022 – Erev RH Early Service with Cantor Luck (9/25/22) 5:30 pm
HHD 2022 – Erev RH Early Service with Cantor Luck (9/25/22)
Sep 25 @ 5:30 pm – 7:15 pm
Join us in-person for Opening The Gates: Erev Rosh HaShanah Early Service from 5:30pm – 7:15pm!Service led by Rabbis Ryan Bauer and Sarah Joselow Parris. Sermon by Rabbi Beth Singer. Music by Cantor Arik Luck. … Continued
HHD 2022 – Erev RH Late Service with Cantor Attie (9/25/22) 8:00 pm
HHD 2022 – Erev RH Late Service with Cantor Attie (9/25/22)
Sep 25 @ 8:00 pm – 9:45 pm
Join us in-person for Opening The Gates: Erev Rosh HaShanah Late Service from 8:00pm – 9:45pm!Service led by Rabbis Sydney Mintz and Jonathan Singer. Sermon by Rabbi Sarah Joselow Parris. Music by Cantor Marsha Attie. … Continued
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Rosh Hashanah Day 1 12:00 am
Rosh Hashanah Day 1
Sep 26 @ 12:00 am – 11:59 pm
Office closed.
HHD 2022 – Apples & Honey: Rosh HaShanah Service (Children) 10:00 am
HHD 2022 – Apples & Honey: Rosh HaShanah Service (Children)
Sep 26 @ 10:00 am – 11:30 am
Join Rabbis Sarah Joselow Parris and Ryan Bauer, and Rabbinic Intern Leo Fuchs, along with Jonathan Bayer for outdoor children's services and activities from 10:00 am – 11:30 am at Presidio Wall Playground! Stop by for a bit … Continued
HHD 2022 – RH Morning Svc. with Cantors Luck & Attie (9/26) 10:00 am
HHD 2022 – RH Morning Svc. with Cantors Luck & Attie (9/26)
Sep 26 @ 10:00 am – 12:15 pm
Join us in-person for Rosh HaShanah Morning Service: Under One Dome – A combined service of majesty and warmth, contemplation and exaltation, of reflection and renewal – from 10:00am – 12:15pm! Service led by Rabbis … Continued
HHD 2022 – Return Again: Teen Led Rosh HaShanah Service 2:30 pm
HHD 2022 – Return Again: Teen Led Rosh HaShanah Service
Sep 26 @ 2:30 pm – 3:30 pm
Community Service led by our teens who will lead us in song, worship, poetry and prose. Led by Cantor Attie and musical accompanists. *This service is open to members and the entire community, as well as … Continued
HHD 2022 – Tashlich: Letting Go Together – Service & Concert 5:30 pm
HHD 2022 – Tashlich: Letting Go Together – Service & Concert
Sep 26 @ 5:30 pm – 7:00 pm
JOIN US ALL FOR REVERSE TASHLICH – LETTING GO TOGETHERMONDAY, SEPTEMBER 26, 2022Baker Beach5:30 – 7:00pm This year we join a worldwide movement as we cast a pebble, a shell or a handful of sand into … Continued
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Rosh Hashanah Day 2 12:00 am
Rosh Hashanah Day 2
Sep 27 @ 12:00 am – 11:59 pm
Office closed.
HHD 2022 – Rosh HaShanah Second Day Service (9/27/2022) 10:00 am
HHD 2022 – Rosh HaShanah Second Day Service (9/27/2022)
Sep 27 @ 10:00 am – 12:15 pm
Cantor Arik Luck and musicians, along with Rabbis Ryan Bauer, Jonathan Singer and Rabbinic Intern, Leo Fuchs, will lead a full-length, eclectic traditional style Reform Rosh HaShanah service. Sermon by Rabbinic Intern, Leo Fuchs. The … Continued
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Shabbat Shuvah Service 6:00 pm
Shabbat Shuvah Service
Sep 30 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Shabbat Shuvah this Friday, September 30th at 6:00 pm!Led by Rabbis Beth Singer and Sarah Joselow Parris with Cantor Arik Luck. The sermon will be given by Rabbi Lawrence Kushner.To best … Continued
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Shiva Minyan Information

Attending a shiva (morning ritual) is a mitzvah (commandment). The mitzvah is to go to a house of mourning, to comfort the bereaved, and to assure that there will be a minyan of ten people to recite the Kaddish memorial prayer. Performing this mitzvah is one of the highest honors a person can do for another in our community. It is not necessary that you know the deceased or the mourner for your presence to help in comforting the mourners as they grieve and heal.

The focus of a person attending a shiva minyan is to provide comfort and support for the mourner.

The rabbis are very clear that a visitor’s main job is “being there” for the mourner. A visitor is not expected to say anything because there are no appropriate words to be said. It is traditional to bring food, either prepared by you or store bought. Food represents life, and we embrace and talk of life in the face of death. It is not traditional to bring liquor, candy, or flowers. In addition it is customary to make a donation (tzedakah) to a charity in honor of the person who has passed away. To make a donation to Congregation Emanu-El in memory of an individual you may do so here or you may contact the Development Office at (415) 750-7554.

Practical Tips

Just walk in

Do not ring the doorbell. The front door of most shiva homes will be left open or unlocked, eliminating the need for the mourners to answer the door.

Take food to the kitchen

If you are bringing food, take it to the kitchen. Be sure to put your name on a card or on the container so that the mourners will know you made the gift.

Find the mourners

Go to the mourners as soon as possible.

What do you say?

The tradition suggests being silent, allowing the mourner to open the conversation.

It is appropriate to offer a hug, a kiss, or handshake.

If you do want to open a conversation, begin with “I’m so sorry” or “I don’t know what to say. “

Speak about the deceased, because one of the most powerful ways to comfort mourners is to encourage them to remember who they have lost. This can be done by recalling a personal memory of the deceased.

Do not tell people not to cry or that they will get over it. Crying and being sad is an integral part of the normal grieving process. If a person cries, your job is just to be there with them you are not expected to say anything.

Participate in the service

If a prayer service is conducted, participate to the extent you can. If you do not know the service, sit or stand respectfully while it is in progress. Often times the rabbi or leader will invite people to share memories about the deceased, do not hesitate to share one, even if it is somewhat humorous. The entire purpose of shiva is to focus on the life of the person who has died and his or her relationship to the family and friends in that room.

Talk to your friends

You may see other friends and acquaintances at a house of mourning. You might be tempted to shmooze about sports or politics, but always remember the purpose of the shiva is to comfort the mourners. You are in the home to be a member of the community and the most appropriate topic of conversation is the deceased. Recall your memories about the deceased and share them. If you feel tempted to engage in small talk, don’t judge yourself; just remind yourself why you are present at the shiva.

Leaving a Shiva House

When you are ready to leave, you may want to wish the bereaved good health and strength, comfort, and other blessings.

After the Shiva

Check in with the mouner; after some months have passed, ask the mourner how he or she is feeling. Ask about a memory of the deceased.

*adapted from MyJewishLearning.com

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