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Mah Jongg (Rinder Chapel) 6:30 pm
Mah Jongg (Rinder Chapel)
Aug 2 @ 6:30 pm – 9:00 pm
 
JBOB Mom’s Night Out August 2, 2016 7:30 pm
JBOB Mom’s Night Out August 2, 2016
Aug 2 @ 7:30 pm – 9:00 pm
Back by popular demand! Join other moms with young children for a fun night out! We'll meet at a private home in Inner Richmond for a chance to relax and get to know each other … Continued
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Cooking for Congregants – August 4, 2016 9:00 am
Cooking for Congregants – August 4, 2016
Aug 4 @ 9:00 am – 11:00 am
Do you enjoy cooking? Participate in this mitzvah led bycongregant and former restaurant owner Gail Laghi. Together,up to five volunteers make meals for congregants in need.All congregants are welcome to join. Please register.Questions? Contact Rebecca … Continued
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Bagels and Babies (MMR) June 24 9:30 am
Bagels and Babies (MMR) June 24
Aug 5 @ 9:30 am – 11:00 am
 
Pre-Oneg (MMR) 8-5-2016 5:00 pm
Pre-Oneg (MMR) 8-5-2016
Aug 5 @ 5:00 pm – 5:30 pm
 
Friday Under Five Shabbat Service (MMS) 8-5-2016 5:30 pm
Pre-Oneg (Foyer) 8-5-2016 5:30 pm
Pre-Oneg (Foyer) 8-5-2016
Aug 5 @ 5:30 pm – 6:00 pm
 
Classic Shabbat Service (Main) 8-5-2016 6:00 pm
Classic Shabbat Service (Main) 8-5-2016
Aug 5 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
 
Simchat Shabbat Dinner 08-05-2016 6:00 pm
Simchat Shabbat Dinner 08-05-2016
Aug 5 @ 6:00 pm – 8:00 pm
Simchat Shabbat Dinner 08-05-2016
Monthly festive community Shabbat Dinner with children.First Friday of the month, 6:00 p.m in Guild Hall.Thai Food will be provided.Event Signup
One Shabbat Service (MMS) 7:30 pm
One Shabbat Service (MMS)
Aug 5 @ 7:30 pm – 8:30 pm
 
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Cooking for Congregants – August 11, 2016 9:00 am
Cooking for Congregants – August 11, 2016
Aug 11 @ 9:00 am – 11:00 am
Do you enjoy cooking? Participate in this mitzvah led bycongregant and former restaurant owner Gail Laghi. Together,up to five volunteers make meals for congregants in need.All congregants are welcome to join. Please register.Questions? Contact Rebecca … Continued
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High Holy Day Bookplate Party 6:00 pm
High Holy Day Bookplate Party
Aug 16 @ 6:00 pm – 8:00 pm
Perform a mitzvah for your congregation in just 5 easy steps! 1. Drop in anytime between 6 pm and 8 pm on August 16.2. Enjoy delicious pizza.3. Smooze with fellow congregants. 4. Place some bookplates (each one … Continued
Mah Jongg (Rinder Chapel) 6:30 pm
Mah Jongg (Rinder Chapel)
Aug 16 @ 6:30 pm – 9:00 pm
 
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Join Rabbi Sydney Mintz in Raleigh, North Carolina to take a stand! 8:30 am
Join Rabbi Sydney Mintz in Raleigh, North Carolina to take a stand!
Aug 18 @ 8:30 am – Aug 21 @ 7:00 pm
Join Rabbi Sydney Mintz in Raleigh, North Carolina to take a stand!
  From August to November, the Reform Jewish Movement will be partnering with the NAACP, the Lawyers Committee for Civil Rights Under Law and the PICO National Network to protect the right to vote this … Continued
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Young Adult Summer Camp (Members) 4:00 pm
Young Adult Summer Camp (Members)
Aug 19 @ 4:00 pm – Aug 21 @ 12:00 pm
Young Adult Summer Camp (Members) @ URJ Camp Newman
The Young Adult Community at Congregation Emanu-El invites you to our 5th annual Young Adult Summer Camp. Come and join young adults from all over the Bay Area for a relaxing and fun weekend in … Continued
Young Adult Summer Camp (Non Members) 4:00 pm
Young Adult Summer Camp (Non Members)
Aug 19 @ 4:00 pm – Aug 21 @ 12:00 pm
Young Adult Summer Camp (Non Members) @ URJ Camp Newman
The Young Adult Community at Congregation Emanu-El invites you to our 5th annual Young Adult Summer Camp. Come and join young adults from all over the Bay Area for a relaxing and fun weekend in … Continued
Young Adult Summer Camp 2016 4:00 pm
Young Adult Summer Camp 2016
Aug 19 @ 4:00 pm – Aug 21 @ 12:00 pm
 
Bagels and Babies (MMR) June 24 9:30 am
Bagels and Babies (MMR) June 24
Aug 19 @ 9:30 am – 11:00 am
 
Pre-Oneg (MMR) August 19, 2016 5:30 pm
Pre-Oneg (MMR) August 19, 2016
Aug 19 @ 5:30 pm – 6:00 pm
 
Shabbat Service (MMS) August 19, 2016 6:00 pm
Shabbat Service (MMS) August 19, 2016
Aug 19 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
 
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The Tribe: Camping August 20-21, 2016
The Tribe: Camping August 20-21, 2016
Aug 20 – Aug 21 all-day
Join the Tribe for camping in one of the premier northern California sites, Alice Eastwood Group Site in Mt Tamalpais State Park. Bring your children for a memorable weekend filled with lots of fun!Cost $50/familyEvent … Continued
Torah Study (Library) 9:15 am
Torah Study (Library)
Aug 20 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
 
Shabbat Morning Minyan (MMS) Including BM of Sophie Rose 8-20-2016 10:30 am
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Bagels and Babies (MMR) June 24 9:30 am
Bagels and Babies (MMR) June 24
Aug 26 @ 9:30 am – 11:00 am
 
Pre-Oneg (MMR) 8-26-2016 5:30 pm
Pre-Oneg (MMR) 8-26-2016
Aug 26 @ 5:30 pm – 6:00 pm
 
Shabbat Service (MMS) 8-26-2016 6:00 pm
Shabbat Service (MMS) 8-26-2016
Aug 26 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
 
Mah Jongg (Rinder Chapel) 6:30 pm
Mah Jongg (Rinder Chapel)
Aug 26 @ 6:30 pm – 9:00 pm
 
Emanu-El Open House BBQ Dinner 2016 7:00 pm
Emanu-El Open House BBQ Dinner 2016
Aug 26 @ 7:00 pm – 9:00 pm
Emanu-El Open House BBQ Dinner 2016
Join us for a BBQ to enjoy a Shabbat Summer Eve. Bring a friend to find out more about Emanu-El, or just come and enjoy Shabbat at 6:00 pm, BBQ and music at 7:00 pm.Event … Continued
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LGBT BBQ 2:00 pm
LGBT BBQ
Aug 28 @ 2:00 pm – 5:00 pm
Calling all Emanu-EL LGBT Members! (And your kids too!) Let’s get together! Please Join Rabbis Mintz and Rodich for a casual and fun summer BBQ. We will gather at a private home in the Castro/Upper Market area for … Continued
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An Evening with Roseanne Barr 7:00 pm
An Evening with Roseanne Barr
Aug 30 @ 7:00 pm – 8:30 pm
An Evening with Roseanne Barr
Presented by Congregation Emanu-El's Israel Action CommitteeFrom growing up amongst Holocaust Survivors, to speaking in Israel against BDS, to Kabbalistic meditation, Roseanne Barr discusses all things Judaica.  She will be joined by Dr. Lenny Kristal … Continued
Jewish Heritage Night with the Giants 2016 7:15 pm
Jewish Heritage Night with the Giants 2016
Aug 30 @ 7:15 pm – 9:30 pm
Jewish Heritage Night with the Giants 2016 @ AT&T Park
  Join the Bay Area's Jewish community at the Giants annual Jewish Heritage Night at AT&T Park! Your Special Event ticket includes a seat in one of the Jewish Heritage sections for the game versus the … Continued
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Shiva Minyan Information

Shiva Minyan Information

Attending a shiva (morning ritual) is a mitzvah (commandment). The mitzvah is to go to a house of mourning, to comfort the bereaved, and to assure that there will be a minyan of ten people to recite the Kaddishmemorial prayer. Performing this mitzvah is one of the highest honors a person can do for another in our community. It is not necessary that you know the deceased or the mourner for your presence to help in comforting the mourners as they grieve and heal.

The focus of a person attending a shiva minyan is to provide comfort and support for the mourner.

The rabbis are very clear that a visitor’s main job is “being there” for the mourner. A visitor is not expected to say anything because there are no appropriate words to be said. It is traditional to bring food, either prepared by you or store bought.  Food represents life, and we embrace and talk of life in the face of death. It is not traditional to bring liquor, candy, or flowers. In addition it is customary to make a donation (tzedakah) to a charity in honor of the person who has passed away. To make a donation to Congregation Emanu-El in memory of an individual you may do so here or you may contact the Development Office at (415) 750-7554.

Practical Tips*

Just walk in

Do not ring the doorbell. The front door of most shiva homes will be left open or unlocked, eliminating the need for the mourners to answer the door.

Take food to the kitchen

If you are bringing food, take it to the kitchen. Be sure to put your name on a card or on the container so that the mourners will know you made the gift.

Find the mourners

Go to the mourners as soon as possible.

What do you say?

The tradition suggests being silent, allowing the mourner to open the conversation.

It is appropriate to offer a hug, a kiss, or handshake.

If you do want to open a conversation, begin with “I’m so sorry” or “I don’t know what to say. ”

Speak about the deceased, because one of the most powerful ways to comfort mourners is to encourage them to remember who they have lost. This can be done by recalling a personal memory of the deceased.

Do not tell people not to cry or that they will get over it. Crying and being sad is an integral part of the normal grieving process. If a person cries, your job is just to be there with them you are not expected to say anything.

Participate in the service

If a prayer service is conducted, participate to the extent you can. If you do not know the service, sit or stand respectfully while it is in progress. Often times the rabbi or leader will invite people to share memories about the deceased, do not hesitate to share one, even if it is somewhat humorous. The entire purpose of shiva is to focus on the life of the person who has died and his or her relationship to the family and friends in that room.

Talk to your friends

You may see other friends and acquaintances at a house of mourning. You might be tempted to shmooze about sports or politics, but always remember the purpose of the shiva is to comfort the mourners. You are in the home to be a member of the community and the most appropriate topic of conversation is the deceased. Recall your memories about the deceased and share them. If you feel tempted to engage in small talk, don’t judge yourself; just remind yourself why you are present at the shiva.

Leaving a Shiva House

When you are ready to leave, you may want to wish the bereaved good health and strength, comfort, and other blessings.

After the Shiva

Check in with the mouner; after some months have passed, ask the mourner how he or she is feeling. Ask about a memory of the deceased.

*adapted from http://www.myjewishlearning.com/life/Life_Events/Death_and_Mourning/ Burial_and_Mourning/Shiva/How_to_Make_a_Shiva_Call.shtml

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