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Weekday Evening Minyan (February 3) 5:00 pm
Weekday Evening Minyan (February 3)
Feb 3 @ 5:00 pm – 5:15 pm
We are offering a weekday evening minyan during the week for our community to say kaddish together. Join our sacred ‘zoom room’ to be with each other and create space for memory. Click here.
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music (February 3) 7:30 pm
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music (February 3)
Feb 3 @ 7:30 pm – 7:40 pm
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music with Cantor Marsha Attie. Facebook Live.
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Beauty of What Remains: Rabbi Steve Leder 7:00 pm
Beauty of What Remains: Rabbi Steve Leder
Feb 4 @ 7:00 pm – 8:00 pm
A conversation with Rabbi Ryan Bauer and Rabbi Steve Leder on his new book, The Beauty of What Remains: How Our Greatest Fear Becomes our Greatest Gift  Thursday, February 4, via Zoom at 7:00pmAs the head … Continued
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One Shabbat Service (2/05/2021) 6:00 pm
One Shabbat Service (2/05/2021)
Feb 5 @ 6:00 pm – 6:45 pm
Shabbat service led by Rabbi Jonathan Singer and Cantor Marsha Attie. Click here to watch on our website livestream page. Or click here to participate via Facebook Live, you don't have to join Facebook to participate. … Continued
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Torah Study (with Rabbi Sarah Joselow Parris – 2/06/2021) 9:15 am
Torah Study (with Rabbi Sarah Joselow Parris – 2/06/2021)
Feb 6 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with Rabbi Sarah Joselow Parris, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
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Weekday Evening Minyan (February 10) 5:00 pm
Weekday Evening Minyan (February 10)
Feb 10 @ 5:00 pm – 5:15 pm
We are offering a weekday evening minyan during the week for our community to say kaddish together. Join our sacred ‘zoom room’ to be with each other and create space for memory. Click here.
Men’s Group Virtual Gathering – February 10 2021 5:30 pm
Men’s Group Virtual Gathering – February 10 2021
Feb 10 @ 5:30 pm – 6:30 pm
Men of Congregation Emanu-El have a monthly opportunity to socialize with each other and discuss a topic of import with Rabbi Jonathan. Join me for happy hour this month at 5:30 pm on February 10th … Continued
Resiliency Series: Becoming Teachers to our Children (2/10/2021) 7:00 pm
Resiliency Series: Becoming Teachers to our Children (2/10/2021)
Feb 10 @ 7:00 pm – 8:30 pm
Childcare and Becoming Teachers to our Children  Led by Rabbi Sarah Joselow Parris and Early Childhood Education Director Nika Greenberg, M.Ed., and co-facilitated by Dana Blum, Senior Director, Bay Area, Common Sense Media  This program is for parents and grandparents, who want to … Continued
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music (February 10) 7:30 pm
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music (February 10)
Feb 10 @ 7:30 pm – 7:40 pm
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music with Cantor Marsha Attie. Facebook Live.
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Feb Young Adult Candle Lighting 5:45 pm
Feb Young Adult Candle Lighting
Feb 12 @ 5:45 pm – 6:00 pm
Let’s bring in the Shabbat light together as a community in a quick 15-minute Zoom call. Bring your candles, wine, and challah (or whatever carb you’ve got laying around) – see you there!Make sure to … Continued
One Shabbat Service (2/12/2021) 6:00 pm
One Shabbat Service (2/12/2021)
Feb 12 @ 6:00 pm – 6:45 pm
Shabbat service led by Rabbi Ryan Bauer and Cantor Arik Luck. Click here to watch on our website livestream page. Or click here to participate via Facebook Live, you don't have to join Facebook to participate. … Continued
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Torah Study (with Rabbi Ryan Bauer – 2/13/2021) 9:15 am
Torah Study (with Rabbi Ryan Bauer – 2/13/2021)
Feb 13 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with Rabbi Ryan Bauer, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
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Young Adult Mixology 4.0 11:30 am
Young Adult Mixology 4.0
Feb 14 @ 11:30 am – 12:30 pm
This Valentine's Day (Sunday, February 14) we are switching up the Mixology energy with a brunch edition featuring classic beverages with your favorite YALC hosts! Once we've had a few sips to loosen up, stick … Continued
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Weekday Evening Minyan (February 17) 5:00 pm
Weekday Evening Minyan (February 17)
Feb 17 @ 5:00 pm – 5:15 pm
We are offering a weekday evening minyan during the week for our community to say kaddish together. Join our sacred ‘zoom room’ to be with each other and create space for memory. Click here.
Resiliency Series: Supporting Your School Age Child and Adolescent (2/17/2021) 7:00 pm
Resiliency Series: Supporting Your School Age Child and Adolescent (2/17/2021)
Feb 17 @ 7:00 pm – 8:30 pm
Supporting Your School Age Child and Adolescent Through the Pandemic   Led by Rabbi Ryan Bauer and Marjorie Swig, MS/LMFT  This program is intended primarily for parents and grandparents of school-age children and adolescents. Together, Rabbi Bauer and Marjorie … Continued
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music (February 17) 7:30 pm
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music (February 17)
Feb 17 @ 7:30 pm – 7:40 pm
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music with Cantor Arik Luck. Facebook Live.
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L’Chaim: A Taste of Israeli Wines (SOLD OUT) 6:30 pm
L’Chaim: A Taste of Israeli Wines (SOLD OUT)
Feb 18 @ 6:30 pm – 8:00 pm
L’CHAIM: A Taste of Israeli Wines Thursday, February 18, 6:30pm Zoom event with Sommelier, Evan Hufford Registration Required by February 11 to obtain wines for pick up at Congregation Emanu-El $65 per member, which includes … Continued
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One Shabbat Service (2/19/2021) 6:00 pm
One Shabbat Service (2/19/2021)
Feb 19 @ 6:00 pm – 6:45 pm
Shabbat service led by Rabbi Beth Singer and Cantor Marsha Attie. Click here to watch on our website livestream page. Or click here to participate via Facebook Live, you don't have to join Facebook to participate. … Continued
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Torah Study (with Rabbi Beth Singer – 2/20/2021) 9:15 am
Torah Study (with Rabbi Beth Singer – 2/20/2021)
Feb 20 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with Rabbi Beth Singer followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
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Purim Music and Mixology 7:00 pm
Purim Music and Mixology
Feb 23 @ 7:00 pm – 8:00 pm
Purim invites us to mix things up, be a little sideways, and dive into the absurd head first. Jhos Singer is a Maggid, a musician and a mixologist, which means he is the perfect guy … Continued
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Weekday Evening Minyan (February 24) 5:00 pm
Weekday Evening Minyan (February 24)
Feb 24 @ 5:00 pm – 5:15 pm
We are offering a weekday evening minyan during the week for our community to say kaddish together. Join our sacred ‘zoom room’ to be with each other and create space for memory. Click here.
Purim Car-nival and Canned Food Donation 6:00 pm
Purim Car-nival and Canned Food Donation
Feb 24 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Throw on a costume (entirely optional), grab a bag of canned food to donate, and join us at the “Palace Gates of Shushan” (aka the front of Emanu-El) for a lively drive-through celebration. On Purim, … Continued
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music (February 24) 7:30 pm
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music (February 24)
Feb 24 @ 7:30 pm – 7:40 pm
Soothe Your Soul: A Moment of Music with Cantor Marsha Attie. Facebook Live.
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The Whole Megillah: A Reading For Adults 6:00 pm
The Whole Megillah: A Reading For Adults
Feb 25 @ 6:00 pm – 7:30 pm
On Erev Purim, gather for lively discussion and the opportunity to imbibe until you can’t tell the difference between Mordechai and Haman, as we journey through the entire Megillah. The book of Esther is about … Continued
Torah on Tap: Purim Edition! (Young Adult) 6:00 pm
Torah on Tap: Purim Edition! (Young Adult)
Feb 25 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Torah on Tap: Purim Edition on Thursday, Feb 25th at 6pmPurim in a nutshell: they tried to kill us, we survived, let’s party!  This Purim, the Young Adult Community invites you to join as Rabbi Rodich … Continued
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One Shabbat Service (2/26/2021) 6:00 pm
One Shabbat Service (2/26/2021)
Feb 26 @ 6:00 pm – 6:45 pm
Shabbat service led by Rabbi Sarah Joselow Parris and Cantor Arik Luck. Click here to watch on our website livestream page. Or click here to participate via Facebook Live, you don't have to join Facebook to … Continued
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Torah Study (with Rabbi Jonathan Singer – 2/27/2021) 9:15 am
Torah Study (with Rabbi Jonathan Singer – 2/27/2021)
Feb 27 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with Rabbi Beth Singer followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
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Unity Group: Mass Incarceration — What You Can Do About It 1:00 pm
Unity Group: Mass Incarceration — What You Can Do About It
Feb 28 @ 1:00 pm – 2:30 pm
With increasing numbers of people being sent to jail and to prison, the San Francisco Black-Jewish (and Allies) Unity Group wants to encourage conversations leading people to challenge the American mass incarceration criminal justice system. … Continued
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Shiva Minyan Information

Attending a shiva (morning ritual) is a mitzvah (commandment). The mitzvah is to go to a house of mourning, to comfort the bereaved, and to assure that there will be a minyan of ten people to recite the Kaddishmemorial prayer. Performing this mitzvah is one of the highest honors a person can do for another in our community. It is not necessary that you know the deceased or the mourner for your presence to help in comforting the mourners as they grieve and heal.

The focus of a person attending a shiva minyan is to provide comfort and support for the mourner.

The rabbis are very clear that a visitor’s main job is “being there” for the mourner. A visitor is not expected to say anything because there are no appropriate words to be said. It is traditional to bring food, either prepared by you or store bought.  Food represents life, and we embrace and talk of life in the face of death. It is not traditional to bring liquor, candy, or flowers. In addition it is customary to make a donation (tzedakah) to a charity in honor of the person who has passed away. To make a donation to Congregation Emanu-El in memory of an individual you may do so here or you may contact the Development Office at (415) 750-7554.

Practical Tips*

Just walk in

Do not ring the doorbell. The front door of most shiva homes will be left open or unlocked, eliminating the need for the mourners to answer the door.

Take food to the kitchen

If you are bringing food, take it to the kitchen. Be sure to put your name on a card or on the container so that the mourners will know you made the gift.

Find the mourners

Go to the mourners as soon as possible.

What do you say?

The tradition suggests being silent, allowing the mourner to open the conversation.

It is appropriate to offer a hug, a kiss, or handshake.

If you do want to open a conversation, begin with “I’m so sorry” or “I don’t know what to say. ”

Speak about the deceased, because one of the most powerful ways to comfort mourners is to encourage them to remember who they have lost. This can be done by recalling a personal memory of the deceased.

Do not tell people not to cry or that they will get over it. Crying and being sad is an integral part of the normal grieving process. If a person cries, your job is just to be there with them you are not expected to say anything.

Participate in the service

If a prayer service is conducted, participate to the extent you can. If you do not know the service, sit or stand respectfully while it is in progress. Often times the rabbi or leader will invite people to share memories about the deceased, do not hesitate to share one, even if it is somewhat humorous. The entire purpose of shiva is to focus on the life of the person who has died and his or her relationship to the family and friends in that room.

Talk to your friends

You may see other friends and acquaintances at a house of mourning. You might be tempted to shmooze about sports or politics, but always remember the purpose of the shiva is to comfort the mourners. You are in the home to be a member of the community and the most appropriate topic of conversation is the deceased. Recall your memories about the deceased and share them. If you feel tempted to engage in small talk, don’t judge yourself; just remind yourself why you are present at the shiva.

Leaving a Shiva House

When you are ready to leave, you may want to wish the bereaved good health and strength, comfort, and other blessings.

After the Shiva

Check in with the mouner; after some months have passed, ask the mourner how he or she is feeling. Ask about a memory of the deceased.

*adapted from http://www.myjewishlearning.com/life/Life_Events/Death_and_Mourning/ Burial_and_Mourning/Shiva/How_to_Make_a_Shiva_Call.shtml

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