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Men’s Group -July 1, 2021 5:30 pm
Men’s Group -July 1, 2021
Jul 1 @ 5:30 pm – 6:30 pm
Men of Congregation Emanu-El have a monthly opportunity to socialize and study with a member of the clergy. This cross-generational group provides a small group experience so important to building community. On Thursday, July 1, you'll … Continued
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One Shabbat with Cantor Barak and Rabbi Pearce – (7/2/2021) 6:00 pm
One Shabbat with Cantor Barak and Rabbi Pearce – (7/2/2021)
Jul 2 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Friday Night Shabbat Service this Friday, July 2nd, at 6:00 pm! Led by Rabbi Beth Singer with Cantor Emerita Roslyn Barak and sermon by Rabbi Stephen Pearce, in the Main Sanctuary.  In … Continued
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Torah Study (with Rabbi Jonathan Singer – 7/3/2021) 9:15 am
Torah Study (with Rabbi Jonathan Singer – 7/3/2021)
Jul 3 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with Rabbi Jonathan Singer, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
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Weekday Evening Minyan (July 7) 5:00 pm
Weekday Evening Minyan (July 7)
Jul 7 @ 5:00 pm – 5:15 pm
We are offering a weekday evening minyan during the week for our community to say kaddish together. Join our sacred ‘zoom room’ to be with each other and create space for memory. Click here.
Chuppah and Beyond Summer 2021 7:00 pm
Chuppah and Beyond Summer 2021
Jul 7 @ 7:00 pm – 9:00 pm
Six Wednesdays, 7:00 – 9:00 pmJuly 7, 14, 21, 28 and August 25Are you an engaged or newly married couple? Then this series is meant for you. The Chuppah and Beyond program will help you build … Continued
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One Shabbat Service – (7/9/2021) 6:00 pm
One Shabbat Service – (7/9/2021)
Jul 9 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Friday Night Shabbat Service this Friday, July 9th, at 6:00 pm!Led by Rabbinical Student and Emanu-El Director of Education Leo Fuchs and Cantor Arik Luck in the Main Sanctuary.To best ensure … Continued
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Torah Study (with Rabbi Ryan Bauer – 7/10/2021) 9:15 am
Torah Study (with Rabbi Ryan Bauer – 7/10/2021)
Jul 10 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with Rabbi Ryan Bauer, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
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Most Fun in A Cemetery (Sunday, July 11) Tour 1:00 pm
Most Fun in A Cemetery (Sunday, July 11) Tour
Jul 11 @ 1:00 pm – 2:30 pm
"The Most Fun You Will Ever Have In A Cemetery"Historical tour of Home of Peace Cemetery and Hills of EternityTwo options, limited 25 spots per session:Sunday, July 11 – 1:00pm (Register Here)OR Monday, July 19 – … Continued
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Weekday Evening Minyan (July 14) 5:00 pm
Weekday Evening Minyan (July 14)
Jul 14 @ 5:00 pm – 5:15 pm
We are offering a weekday evening minyan during the week for our community to say kaddish together. Join our sacred ‘zoom room’ to be with each other and create space for memory. Click here.
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One Shabbat Service – (7/16/2021) 6:00 pm
One Shabbat Service – (7/16/2021)
Jul 16 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Friday Night Shabbat Service this Friday, July 16th, at 6:00 pm! Led by Rabbi Sarah Joselow Parris and Cantor Arik Luck in the Main Sanctuary. To best ensure we can provide a safe … Continued
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Torah Study (with Rabbi Jason Rodich – 7/17/2021) 9:15 am
Torah Study (with Rabbi Jason Rodich – 7/17/2021)
Jul 17 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with Rabbi Jason Rodich, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
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Young Adult Park Play Day 1:00 pm
Young Adult Park Play Day
Jul 18 @ 1:00 pm – 3:00 pm
After this past year, isn’t it time to PLAY? Bay Area 20s & 30s are invited to join in for an afternoon of sunshine and chill park games on July 18, 1pm-3pm. Time to break … Continued
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Most Fun in A Cemetery (Monday, July 19) Tour 1:00 pm
Most Fun in A Cemetery (Monday, July 19) Tour
Jul 19 @ 1:00 pm – 2:30 pm
"The Most Fun You Will Ever Have In A Cemetery"Historical tour of Home of Peace Cemetery and Hills of EternityLimited to 25 spots per session:Monday, July 19 – 1:00pm (Register Here)Join Emanu-El historian, Judi Leff, … Continued
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End of Life Planning: Be Prepared with Sinai Memorial Chapel 6:30 pm
End of Life Planning: Be Prepared with Sinai Memorial Chapel
Jul 20 @ 6:30 pm – 7:30 pm
End of Life Planning: How to be prepared with Sinai Memorial Chapelwith Rabbi Ryan BauerJoin us for this special program with Sinai Memorial Chapel and our own Rabbi Ryan Bauer. During the pandemic, it has … Continued
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Weekday Evening Minyan (July 21) 5:00 pm
Weekday Evening Minyan (July 21)
Jul 21 @ 5:00 pm – 5:15 pm
We are offering a weekday evening minyan during the week for our community to say kaddish together. Join our sacred ‘zoom room’ to be with each other and create space for memory. Click here.
Jews Of Color Gathering (July 2021) 7:00 pm
Jews Of Color Gathering (July 2021)
Jul 21 @ 7:00 pm – 8:30 pm
Led by congregants who identify as Jews of Color, we are convening regular gatherings of Emanu-El members who identify as Jews of Color of any race or ethnicity, to meet each other, share stories, and explore … Continued
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One Shabbat Service – (7/23/2021) 6:00 pm
One Shabbat Service – (7/23/2021)
Jul 23 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Friday Night Shabbat Service this Friday, July 23rd, at 6:00 pm! Led by Rabbi Jonathan Singer and Cantor Marsha Attie in the Main Sanctuary. To best ensure we can provide a safe and … Continued
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Torah Study (with Rabbi Jonathan Singer – 7/24/2021) 9:15 am
Torah Study (with Rabbi Jonathan Singer – 7/24/2021)
Jul 24 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with Rabbi Jonathan Singer, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
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One Shabbat Service – (7/30/2021) 6:00 pm
One Shabbat Service – (7/30/2021)
Jul 30 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Friday Night Shabbat Service this Friday, July 30th, at 6:00 pm! Led by Rabbi Jason Rodich and Cantor Marsha Attie in the Main Sanctuary. To best ensure we can provide a safe and … Continued
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Torah Study (with Rabbi Jonathan Singer – 7/31/2021) 9:15 am
Torah Study (with Rabbi Jonathan Singer – 7/31/2021)
Jul 31 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with Rabbi Jonathan Singer, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
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Shiva Minyan Information

Attending a shiva (morning ritual) is a mitzvah (commandment). The mitzvah is to go to a house of mourning, to comfort the bereaved, and to assure that there will be a minyan of ten people to recite the Kaddishmemorial prayer. Performing this mitzvah is one of the highest honors a person can do for another in our community. It is not necessary that you know the deceased or the mourner for your presence to help in comforting the mourners as they grieve and heal.

The focus of a person attending a shiva minyan is to provide comfort and support for the mourner.

The rabbis are very clear that a visitor’s main job is “being there” for the mourner. A visitor is not expected to say anything because there are no appropriate words to be said. It is traditional to bring food, either prepared by you or store bought.  Food represents life, and we embrace and talk of life in the face of death. It is not traditional to bring liquor, candy, or flowers. In addition it is customary to make a donation (tzedakah) to a charity in honor of the person who has passed away. To make a donation to Congregation Emanu-El in memory of an individual you may do so here or you may contact the Development Office at (415) 750-7554.

Practical Tips*

Just walk in

Do not ring the doorbell. The front door of most shiva homes will be left open or unlocked, eliminating the need for the mourners to answer the door.

Take food to the kitchen

If you are bringing food, take it to the kitchen. Be sure to put your name on a card or on the container so that the mourners will know you made the gift.

Find the mourners

Go to the mourners as soon as possible.

What do you say?

The tradition suggests being silent, allowing the mourner to open the conversation.

It is appropriate to offer a hug, a kiss, or handshake.

If you do want to open a conversation, begin with “I’m so sorry” or “I don’t know what to say. ”

Speak about the deceased, because one of the most powerful ways to comfort mourners is to encourage them to remember who they have lost. This can be done by recalling a personal memory of the deceased.

Do not tell people not to cry or that they will get over it. Crying and being sad is an integral part of the normal grieving process. If a person cries, your job is just to be there with them you are not expected to say anything.

Participate in the service

If a prayer service is conducted, participate to the extent you can. If you do not know the service, sit or stand respectfully while it is in progress. Often times the rabbi or leader will invite people to share memories about the deceased, do not hesitate to share one, even if it is somewhat humorous. The entire purpose of shiva is to focus on the life of the person who has died and his or her relationship to the family and friends in that room.

Talk to your friends

You may see other friends and acquaintances at a house of mourning. You might be tempted to shmooze about sports or politics, but always remember the purpose of the shiva is to comfort the mourners. You are in the home to be a member of the community and the most appropriate topic of conversation is the deceased. Recall your memories about the deceased and share them. If you feel tempted to engage in small talk, don’t judge yourself; just remind yourself why you are present at the shiva.

Leaving a Shiva House

When you are ready to leave, you may want to wish the bereaved good health and strength, comfort, and other blessings.

After the Shiva

Check in with the mouner; after some months have passed, ask the mourner how he or she is feeling. Ask about a memory of the deceased.

*adapted from http://www.myjewishlearning.com/life/Life_Events/Death_and_Mourning/ Burial_and_Mourning/Shiva/How_to_Make_a_Shiva_Call.shtml

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