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Rita Semel: Stories of Radiance and Repair 4:00 pm
Rita Semel: Stories of Radiance and Repair
Aug 3 @ 4:00 pm – 5:00 pm
Please join us at a reception celebrating the release of Rita Semel: Stories of Radiance and Repair. A young adult biography written in short stories by Jennifer Kaufman. Wednesday, August 3, from 4:00 – 5:00 … Continued
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Tot Shabbat – (8/5/2022) 5:00 pm
Tot Shabbat – (8/5/2022)
Aug 5 @ 5:00 pm – 6:00 pm
ALL kids 6 and under, their adults and older siblings are welcome, free of charge. We’ll start with a simple kid’s dinner & teen-led activities at 5:00 pm in our beautiful courtyard. Then, join us in … Continued
50/25 Years in the Rabbinate: Honoring Rabbis Pearce & Mintz 6:00 pm
50/25 Years in the Rabbinate: Honoring Rabbis Pearce & Mintz
Aug 5 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Please join us for a special Shabbat service August 5th at 6:00 pm to honor Senior Rabbi Emeritus Stephen Pearce for his 50 years in the rabbinate and Senior Associate Rabbi Sydney Mintz for her … Continued
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Clergy-Led Torah Study (8/6/2022) 9:15 am
Clergy-Led Torah Study (8/6/2022)
Aug 6 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with a member of our Clergy, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
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Shabbat Service – (8/12/2022) 6:00 pm
Shabbat Service – (8/12/2022)
Aug 12 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Friday Night Shabbat Services this Friday, August 12th at 6:00 pm!Led by Rabbis Jason Rodich and Sydney Mintz with Cantor Marsha Attie.To best ensure we can provide a safe and sacred … Continued
Tu B’Av Singles Oneg 7:30 pm
Tu B’Av Singles Oneg
Aug 12 @ 7:30 pm – 9:00 pm
Join us after our Tu B'Av Friday night service for an amorous and social Oneg in the Main Sanctuary Foyer. Libations and conversations from 7:30 until 9:00 PM. This is an opportunity to schmooze with singles (40+) in our community, … Continued
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Clergy-Led Torah Study (8/13/2022) 9:15 am
Clergy-Led Torah Study (8/13/2022)
Aug 13 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with a member of our Clergy, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
Shabbat Morning Service – Anska Hilash (Main) 10:30 am
Shabbat Morning Service – Anska Hilash (Main)
Aug 13 @ 10:30 am – 12:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Shabbat Morning Services in our Main Sanctuary along with one of our b'nei mitzvah celebrants! To best ensure we can provide a safe and sacred experience, please note the following: Service will be … Continued
Shabbat Morning Service – Lylah Cutler (Meyer) 10:30 am
Shabbat Morning Service – Lylah Cutler (Meyer)
Aug 13 @ 10:30 am – 12:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Shabbat Morning Services in our Martin Meyer Sanctuary along with one of our b'nei mitzvah celebrants! To best ensure we can provide a safe and sacred experience, please note the following: Service will … Continued
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Back to Shul Shabbat Service – (8/19/2022) 6:00 pm
Back to Shul Shabbat Service – (8/19/2022)
Aug 19 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Back to Shul Shabbat Services this Friday, August 19th at 6:00 pm!Meet – Pray – NoshOur beloved annual “Back to Shul Shabbat” provides an opportunity for current congregants, their friends, and … Continued
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Clergy-Led Torah Study (8/20/2022) 9:15 am
Clergy-Led Torah Study (8/20/2022)
Aug 20 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with a member of our Clergy, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
Shabbat Morning Service – Charlie Steinberg (Meyer) 10:30 am
Shabbat Morning Service – Charlie Steinberg (Meyer)
Aug 20 @ 10:30 am – 12:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Shabbat Morning Services in our Martin Meyer Sanctuary along with one of our b'nei mitzvah celebrants! To best ensure we can provide a safe and sacred experience, please note the following: Service will … Continued
Shabbat Morning Service – Livy and Kyle Seff (Main) 10:30 am
Shabbat Morning Service – Livy and Kyle Seff (Main)
Aug 20 @ 10:30 am – 12:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Shabbat Morning Services in our Main Sanctuary along with one of our b'nei mitzvah celebrants! To best ensure we can provide a safe and sacred experience, please note the following: Service will be … Continued
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Shabbat Service – (8/26/2022) 6:00 pm
Shabbat Service – (8/26/2022)
Aug 26 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Friday Night Shabbat Services this Friday, August 26th at 6:00 pm!Led by Rabbis Beth Singer and Ryan Bauer with Cantor Arik Luck.To best ensure we can provide a safe and sacred … Continued
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Clergy-Led Torah Study (8/27/2022) 9:15 am
Clergy-Led Torah Study (8/27/2022)
Aug 27 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Torah Study with a member of our Clergy, followed by Mourner's Kaddish and Healing Prayer. To participate, click here.
Shabbat Morning Service – Elliot Zapol (Main) 9:30 am
Shabbat Morning Service – Elliot Zapol (Main)
Aug 27 @ 9:30 am – 11:00 am
Join us for In-Person Shabbat Morning Services in our Main Sanctuary along with one of our b'nei mitzvah celebrants! To best ensure we can provide a safe and sacred experience, please note the following: Service will be … Continued
Shabbat Morning Service – Maren Boigon (Meyer) 9:30 am
Shabbat Morning Service – Maren Boigon (Meyer)
Aug 27 @ 9:30 am – 11:00 am
Join us for In-Person Shabbat Morning Services in our Martin Meyer Sanctuary along with one of our b'nei mitzvah celebrants! To best ensure we can provide a safe and sacred experience, please note the following: Service will … Continued
Shabbat Morning Service – Aaron Gabe (Meyer) 11:30 am
Shabbat Morning Service – Aaron Gabe (Meyer)
Aug 27 @ 11:30 am – 1:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Shabbat Morning Services in our Martin Meyer Sanctuary along with one of our b'nei mitzvah celebrants! To best ensure we can provide a safe and sacred experience, please note the following: Service will … Continued
Shabbat Morning Service – Wyatt Klugman (Main) 11:30 am
Shabbat Morning Service – Wyatt Klugman (Main)
Aug 27 @ 11:30 am – 1:00 pm
Join us for In-Person Shabbat Morning Services in our Main Sanctuary along with one of our b'nei mitzvah celebrants! To best ensure we can provide a safe and sacred experience, please note the following: Service will be … Continued
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Beyond Roe: The past, present, and future of abortion access 7:00 pm
Beyond Roe: The past, present, and future of abortion access
Aug 30 @ 7:00 pm – 8:30 pm
Beyond Roe: The past, present, and future of abortion access, and what Jewish tradition has to tell us With the recent overturning of Roe v. Wade, America is at an inflection point. Will ours be a … Continued
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HHD 2022 – Organ Meditation (8/31/2022) 7:00 pm
HHD 2022 – Organ Meditation (8/31/2022)
Aug 31 @ 7:00 pm – 8:00 pm
As part of our month of Elul offerings, as we begin the sacred work of returning to our soul, join us for an evening Organ Meditation. Find your own personal space in the main sanctuary. Cantor … Continued
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Shiva Minyan Information

Attending a shiva (morning ritual) is a mitzvah (commandment). The mitzvah is to go to a house of mourning, to comfort the bereaved, and to assure that there will be a minyan of ten people to recite the Kaddish memorial prayer. Performing this mitzvah is one of the highest honors a person can do for another in our community. It is not necessary that you know the deceased or the mourner for your presence to help in comforting the mourners as they grieve and heal.

The focus of a person attending a shiva minyan is to provide comfort and support for the mourner.

The rabbis are very clear that a visitor’s main job is “being there” for the mourner. A visitor is not expected to say anything because there are no appropriate words to be said. It is traditional to bring food, either prepared by you or store bought. Food represents life, and we embrace and talk of life in the face of death. It is not traditional to bring liquor, candy, or flowers. In addition it is customary to make a donation (tzedakah) to a charity in honor of the person who has passed away. To make a donation to Congregation Emanu-El in memory of an individual you may do so here or you may contact the Development Office at (415) 750-7554.

Practical Tips

Just walk in

Do not ring the doorbell. The front door of most shiva homes will be left open or unlocked, eliminating the need for the mourners to answer the door.

Take food to the kitchen

If you are bringing food, take it to the kitchen. Be sure to put your name on a card or on the container so that the mourners will know you made the gift.

Find the mourners

Go to the mourners as soon as possible.

What do you say?

The tradition suggests being silent, allowing the mourner to open the conversation.

It is appropriate to offer a hug, a kiss, or handshake.

If you do want to open a conversation, begin with “I’m so sorry” or “I don’t know what to say. “

Speak about the deceased, because one of the most powerful ways to comfort mourners is to encourage them to remember who they have lost. This can be done by recalling a personal memory of the deceased.

Do not tell people not to cry or that they will get over it. Crying and being sad is an integral part of the normal grieving process. If a person cries, your job is just to be there with them you are not expected to say anything.

Participate in the service

If a prayer service is conducted, participate to the extent you can. If you do not know the service, sit or stand respectfully while it is in progress. Often times the rabbi or leader will invite people to share memories about the deceased, do not hesitate to share one, even if it is somewhat humorous. The entire purpose of shiva is to focus on the life of the person who has died and his or her relationship to the family and friends in that room.

Talk to your friends

You may see other friends and acquaintances at a house of mourning. You might be tempted to shmooze about sports or politics, but always remember the purpose of the shiva is to comfort the mourners. You are in the home to be a member of the community and the most appropriate topic of conversation is the deceased. Recall your memories about the deceased and share them. If you feel tempted to engage in small talk, don’t judge yourself; just remind yourself why you are present at the shiva.

Leaving a Shiva House

When you are ready to leave, you may want to wish the bereaved good health and strength, comfort, and other blessings.

After the Shiva

Check in with the mouner; after some months have passed, ask the mourner how he or she is feeling. Ask about a memory of the deceased.

*adapted from MyJewishLearning.com

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