Sun Mon Tue Wed Thu Fri Sat
Kol Nidre – Office closes at 1:00 pm 8:30 am
Kol Nidre – Office closes at 1:00 pm
Oct 8 @ 8:30 am – 1:00 pm
2019 KN Family Service Ushering 4:30 pm
2019 KN Family Service Ushering
Oct 8 @ 4:30 pm – 5:30 pm
Every year for the High Holy Day services, we need temple ushers who extend a warm welcome, hand out prayer books, help congregants with seating, and answer general questions. Enrich your High Holy Day experience … Continued
Kol Nidre Family Service 5:00 pm
Kol Nidre Family Service
Oct 8 @ 5:00 pm – 6:00 pm
2019 KN Classic Service Ushering 5:15 pm
2019 KN Classic Service Ushering
Oct 8 @ 5:15 pm – 6:15 pm
Every year for the High Holy Day services, we need temple ushers who extend a warm welcome, hand out prayer books, help congregants with seating, and answer general questions. Enrich your High Holy Day experience … Continued
HHD 2019 KN Sr. Transp 6:00 pm
HHD 2019 KN Sr. Transp
Oct 8 @ 6:00 pm – 7:30 pm
Transportation Assistance for Seniors in San Francisco on High Holy Days In partnership with the Jewish Community Federation, Congregation Emanu-El is again offering to subsidize half of the cost of transportation for elderly and disabled … Continued
Kol Nidre Early Service 6:00 pm
Kol Nidre Early Service
Oct 8 @ 6:00 pm – 8:00 pm
2019 KN Cont. Svc. Ushering 7:45 pm
2019 KN Cont. Svc. Ushering
Oct 8 @ 7:45 pm – 8:45 pm
Every year for the High Holy Day services, we need temple ushers who extend a warm welcome, hand out prayer books, help congregants with seating, and answer general questions. Enrich your High Holy Day experience … Continued
Kol Nidre Late Service 8:30 pm
Kol Nidre Late Service
Oct 8 @ 8:30 pm – 10:30 pm
Office closed for Yom Kippur
2019 YK Classic Service Ushering 8:15 am
2019 YK Classic Service Ushering
Oct 9 @ 8:15 am – 9:15 am
Every year for the High Holy Day services, we need temple ushers who extend a warm welcome, hand out prayer books, help congregants with seating, and answer general questions. Enrich your High Holy Day experience … Continued
HHD 2019 YK Study Session I 10:00 am
HHD 2019 YK Study Session I
Oct 9 @ 10:00 am – 11:30 am
2019 YK Cont. Svc. Ushering 10:45 am
2019 YK Cont. Svc. Ushering
Oct 9 @ 10:45 am – 12:00 pm
Every year for the High Holy Day services, we need temple ushers who extend a warm welcome, hand out prayer books, help congregants with seating, and answer general questions. Enrich your High Holy Day experience … Continued
HHD 2019 YK Study Session II 11:30 am
HHD 2019 YK Study Session II
Oct 9 @ 11:30 am – 1:00 pm
HHD 2019 YK Panel Discussion 1:00 pm
HHD 2019 YK Panel Discussion
Oct 9 @ 1:00 pm – 2:30 pm
HHD 2019 – Refection in Redwoods 2:00 pm
HHD 2019 – Refection in Redwoods
Oct 9 @ 2:00 pm – 3:15 pm
HHD 2019 YK Afternoon Service 2:30 pm
HHD 2019 YK Afternoon Service
Oct 9 @ 2:30 pm – 4:00 pm
2019 YK Comm. Svc. led by Teens 3:30 pm
2019 YK Comm. Svc. led by Teens
Oct 9 @ 3:30 pm – 5:00 pm
2019 YK Guided Meditation 4:00 pm
2019 YK Guided Meditation
Oct 9 @ 4:00 pm – 5:00 pm
HHD 2019 – YK Healing Service 4:00 pm
HHD 2019 – YK Healing Service
Oct 9 @ 4:00 pm – 5:00 pm
2019 Yizkor Classic Service Ushering 4:45 pm
2019 Yizkor Classic Service Ushering
Oct 9 @ 4:45 pm – 5:45 pm
Every year for the High Holy Day services, we need temple ushers who extend a warm welcome, hand out prayer books, help congregants with seating, and answer general questions. Enrich your High Holy Day experience … Continued
2019 Yizkor Contemporary Service Ushering 4:45 pm
2019 Yizkor Contemporary Service Ushering
Oct 9 @ 4:45 pm – 5:45 pm
Every year for the High Holy Day services, we need temple ushers who extend a warm welcome, hand out prayer books, help congregants with seating, and answer general questions. Enrich your High Holy Day experience … Continued
HHD 2019 Yizkor Sr. Trans. 5:30 pm
HHD 2019 Yizkor Sr. Trans.
Oct 9 @ 5:30 pm – 7:00 pm
Transportation Assistance for Seniors in San Francisco on High Holy Days In partnership with the Jewish Community Federation, Congregation Emanu-El is again offering to subsidize half of the cost of transportation for elderly and disabled … Continued
Yizkor Service 5:30 pm
Yizkor Service
Oct 9 @ 5:30 pm – 7:00 pm
30s and 40s Yom Kippur Break the Fast 2019 6:30 pm
30s and 40s Yom Kippur Break the Fast 2019
Oct 9 @ 6:30 pm – 9:30 pm
Come join the Emanu-El 30s and 40s community for our annual break-the-fast as we mark the end of Yom Kippur. Whether or not you fast or go to services, come and connect with your community … Continued
Bagels and Babies (MMR) 9:30 am
Bagels and Babies (MMR)
Oct 11 @ 9:30 am – 11:00 am
Men’s Group – October 27, 2019 9:30 am
Men’s Group – October 27, 2019
Oct 11 @ 9:30 am – 11:30 am
Men's Group - October 27, 2019 @ Private Residence
Men of Congregation Emanu-El have a monthly opportunity to socialize and study with a member of the clergy at a private home. This cross-generational group provides a small group experience so important to building community. This … Continued
One Shabbat service (MMS) 6:00 pm
One Shabbat service (MMS)
Oct 11 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Late Shabbat Meditation (Chapel) 7:30 pm
Late Shabbat Meditation (Chapel)
Oct 11 @ 7:30 pm – 8:30 pm
YA Late Shabbat (MMS) 8:30 pm
YA Late Shabbat (MMS)
Oct 11 @ 8:30 pm – 9:45 pm
Sukkot Celebration Service & Dinner 2019 5:00 pm
Sukkot Celebration Service & Dinner 2019
Oct 13 @ 5:00 pm – 7:30 pm
Celebrate Sukkot at Temple Emanu-El with a festive outdoor service in the courtyard at 5:00 pm on Sunday, October 13, 2019, followed by Mediterranean dinner.Please feel free to bring your own bottle of wine.Reservations are … Continued
Sukkot Celebration Service & Dinner 2019 5:00 pm
Sukkot Celebration Service & Dinner 2019
Oct 13 @ 5:00 pm – 7:30 pm
Celebrate Sukkot at Temple Emanu-El with a festive service in the Martin Meyer Sanctuary at 5:00 pm on Sunday, October 13, 2019 followed by a Mediterranean dinner under the Sukkah (Courtyard).Please feel free to bring … Continued
Office Closed – Sukkot
Office Closed – Sukkot
Oct 14 all-day
Sukkot Festival Service and Breakfast 9:00 am
Sukkot Festival Service and Breakfast
Oct 14 @ 9:00 am – 10:15 am
Join us on the first morning of Sukkot for the festival service beginning at 9:00 am in the chapel. Following the service, you are invited to stay for a delicious breakfast and freshly brewed coffee … Continued
Sukkot Dinner 2019: The Tribe for Women & Women’s Group 7:00 pm
Sukkot Dinner 2019: The Tribe for Women & Women’s Group
Oct 16 @ 7:00 pm – 9:00 pm
Come join us for our annual Women's Group and Tribe for Women dinner in the sukkah for a night of women, discussion, and wine. We will be outside so remember to dress warmly!Please register, and bring … Continued
Side by Side October 2019 Session 9:30 am
Side by Side October 2019 Session
Oct 17 @ 9:30 am – Dec 10 @ 11:30 am
Side by Side October 2019 Session
Emanu-El’s Side by Side program introduces our youngest children (18 months to 2.5 years) to a preschool environment with their parent or caregiver by their side. Our Side by Side program is rich in Jewish … Continued
Bagels and Babies (MMR) 9:30 am
Bagels and Babies (MMR)
Oct 18 @ 9:30 am – 11:00 am
Pre-Oneg (MMR) 5:30 pm
Pre-Oneg (MMR)
Oct 18 @ 5:30 pm – 6:00 pm
One Shabbat service (MMS) 6:00 pm
One Shabbat service (MMS)
Oct 18 @ 6:00 pm – 7:00 pm
Special Sukkot Israeli Dinner with Chef Aliza 7:15 pm
Special Sukkot Israeli Dinner with Chef Aliza
Oct 18 @ 7:15 pm – 9:00 pm
One Shabbat Service, plus Oneg  Friday, October 18  6:00 pm Special Speaker, Aliza Grayevsky Somekh of Bishulim SF, followed by experiential dinner and wine event (registration required)  A Journey Through the Threads That Weave Israeli … Continued
Torah Study with Rabbi Kushner (R55) 9:15 am
Torah Study with Rabbi Kushner (R55)
Oct 19 @ 9:15 am – 10:15 am
Shabbat Morning Service (BM of Isaac Wayne) Main Sanctuary 10:30 am
Shabbat Morning Service (BM of Leah Lashinsky) MMS 10:30 am
Shabbat Morning Service (BM of Leah Lashinsky) MMS
Oct 19 @ 10:30 am – 12:30 pm
Young Families Havdalah in Rabbi Fenves’ Sukkah 5:00 pm
Young Families Havdalah in Rabbi Fenves’ Sukkah
Oct 19 @ 5:00 pm – 6:00 pm
Please join us for a special Havdalah in Rabbi Fenves' Sukkah for young families with children ages 5 and under! Address will be provided after registration.Event Signup
Yizkor service and breakfast 9:30 am
Yizkor service and breakfast
Oct 20 @ 9:30 am – 10:15 am
Sukkot Yizkor service with Senior Rabbi Beth Singer begins at 9:30 am in the Chapel. Bagels and coffee to follow after the service.
Simchat Torah Dinner & Celebration 2019 5:00 pm
Simchat Torah Dinner & Celebration 2019
Oct 20 @ 5:00 pm – 8:00 pm
Join us as we mark the conclusion of the annual cycle of public Torah readings and the beginning of a new cycle! This joyful and festive occasion includes dinner, dancing and singing with the Torah … Continued
Mah Jongg (Room 57) 1:30 pm
Mah Jongg (Room 57)
Oct 22 @ 1:30 pm – 4:30 pm
Young Adult Volunteer Night at the SF-Marin Food Bank 6:00 pm
Young Adult Volunteer Night at the SF-Marin Food Bank
Oct 22 @ 6:00 pm – 8:00 pm
Join members of the Young Adult Community at Congregation Emanu-El for an evening volunteering with the SF-Marin Food Bank. Volunteers will help sort and package produce for families in the greater San Francisco community. This … Continued
God Wrestling with Rabbi Jonathan Singer 6:30 pm
God Wrestling with Rabbi Jonathan Singer
Oct 22 @ 6:30 pm – 8:30 pm
God Wrestling with Rabbi Jonathan Singer Tuesdays, October 22, 29, November 5  6:30-8:30 pm  How we talked and continue to talk about the Holy from the very beginning to today. We will look at challenging texts, touch … Continued
Raising A Jewish Mensch with Rabbi Pearce 6:30 pm
Raising A Jewish Mensch with Rabbi Pearce
Oct 22 @ 6:30 pm – 8:30 pm
Raising a Jewish Mensch – A Scaffolding for Independence and Responsibility taught by Taube Scholar, Senior Rabbi Emeritus Stephen Pearce Tuesdays, October 22, 29, November 5, 2019—6:30-8:30pmUtilizing both rabbinic education and a doctorate in psychology, Rabbi … Continued
Intro to Judaism – Fall 2019 7:00 pm
Intro to Judaism – Fall 2019
Oct 22 @ 7:00 pm – 9:00 pm
Join Emanu-El clergy to learn about the breadth and wonder of Jewish tradition. This class is a pathway for the adult learner who wishes to discover or deepen Jewish knowledge, non-Jews who are marrying a … Continued
Limonata and Learning, October 23, 2019 4:00 pm
Limonata and Learning, October 23, 2019
Oct 23 @ 4:00 pm – 5:00 pm
Join a member of our clergy for a special" no host" learning opportunity, Limonata and Learning, offered exclusively for our congregants in Marin. We will meet for happy hour at Book Passage in Corte Madera … Continued
Cooking for Congregants – October 24, 2019 9:00 am
Cooking for Congregants – October 24, 2019
Oct 24 @ 9:00 am – 11:00 am
Do you enjoy cooking? Participate in this mitzvah led by congregant and former restaurant owner Gail Laghi, and congregant and chef Sari Swig. Together, up to four volunteers make meals for congregants in need. All … Continued
Men’s Group – October 27, 2019 9:30 am
Men’s Group – October 27, 2019
Oct 27 @ 9:30 am – 11:30 am
Men's Group - October 27, 2019 @ Private Residence
Men of Congregation Emanu-El have a monthly opportunity to socialize and study with a member of the clergy at a private home. This cross-generational group provides a small group experience so important to building community. This … Continued
Emanu-El NEXT Town Hall 6:30 pm
Emanu-El NEXT Town Hall
Oct 28 @ 6:30 pm – 8:30 pm
Join us for a congregation Town Hall Come together as a community and learn about exciting plans for Emanu-El’s future. Monday, October 28 6:30-8:30 pm Martin Meyer SanctuaryEvent Signup
Chuppah and Beyond Fall 2019 7:15 pm
Chuppah and Beyond Fall 2019
Oct 30 @ 7:15 pm – 9:15 pm
Six Wednesdays, 7:15 – 9:15 pmAre you an engaged or newly married couple? Then this series is meant for you. The Chuppah and Beyond program will help you build and strengthen the foundational tools for a successful, happy lifelong … Continued


Shalom Rav From Our Rabbis

October 1, 2019

rabbi jonathan singerIt is the “Season of our Joy!” Although you may be reading this just prior to Yom Kippur, with its profoundly moving focus on personal and communal atonement, Jewish tradition teaches that Yom Kippur and the Jewish New Year are inextricably linked to Sukkot, which is one of the most joyous festivals of the Jewish calendar. So joyous, in fact, that one is to place the first nail in the sukkah just as Yom Kippur is ending. Even as you are breaking your fast, you are supposed to be preparing for the eight-day festival the rabbis called THE HOLIDAY. Following this custom, in our Courtyard this month as the Day of Atonement comes to a close, you will see us preparing to put up our Emanu-El sukkah. I know that many of our members will be thinking, “Haven’t we done enough Jewish already? And why should we come back to Temple for the seemingly child-focused holidays of Sukkot and Simchat Torah?” The answer is, according to Jewish tradition, you have not fully experienced Yom Kippur if you do not then enter the sukkah and embrace its joy. Sukkot reminds us that Judaism is not just about confession and atonement, but also about hope and appreciating moments of joy and celebration.

Beginning just five days after the process of teshuvah during Yom Kippur, which involves denying the physical, Sukkot embraces joyous celebration by sharing food, drink, and stories while dwelling in a festively decorated booth. By placing these holidays so closely together, Jewish tradition makes a very deep point. Psychologically, the Day of Atonement leading into a time of celebration and gratitude affirms that, for Judaism, the concept of hope is core to our growth as individuals. We are grateful for Yom Kippur and the days preceding it to focus on personal transformation, that which comes from admitting mistakes and then not just asking for forgiveness, but also working to change our behavior. As we sit in the sanctuary on Yom Kippur, free of other responsibilities and distractions like cell phones, we are taught to go deep into ourselves and do real kishke work — work that ultimately leads to an optimism that we can grow, change, bring our values to the forefront, and live a more balanced and loving life. And as we joyously break our fast, we need to reconnect to the world around us, immerse ourselves in nature, be under the stars, and deeply breath in the cool air of hope. Connecting to the process of the harvest as we sit in the sukkah represents both freedom and connection to the time of the season.

The sukkah is reminiscent of the booths where our ancestors would sleep as they quickly harvested the fall crops; with no time to go home to slumber, they spent those nights in the field in order to gather up as much bounty as possible. The sukkah also represents the portable huts that our even more ancient ancestors, the Israelites, who followed Moses into the wilderness, dwelt in as they migrated to the Promised Land.Entering a sukkah after Yom Kippur affirms that, as we complete our teshuvah, we then go forward with hope. In a time of global warming, it reminds us to work on sustainability. In a time of isolation, it asks us to invite in guests and connect to community. In a time of over-functioning, it asks us to celebrate the beauty of simplicity.I hope you will join us in celebrating these holidays, as there will be opportunities for members of all ages:

:•Erev Sukkot — Festival Celebration

•First Day of Sukkot — Festival Service

•Friday Night during Sukkot — Adult Israeli dinner in the sukkah (or nearby), with Israeli wines

•Simchat Torah — Dinner and hakafot in Guild Hall

Yom Kippur and Sukkot are fundamentally connected, and it’s time for our community to embrace more deeply this entire “Season of our Joy.”

September 1, 2019

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Beth Singer

“Dear Rabbi Singer: I am writing because my dad was sick recently. I did not hear from you and it really hurt my feelings.”

“Dear Rabbi Singer: I saw you at Trader Joe’s and it felt like you did not recognize me.”

“Dear Rabbi Singer: At the event last week, I saw you talking to others, but you never came up and said Hi to me.”

I don’t receive emails like this often, but when I do, I always feel terrible for letting a congregant down because knowing our members and making them feel honored and respected is so important to me. And although none of us enjoys being told that we have fallen short in some regard, I actually appreciate these messages because I cannot make amends if I’m unaware that I have upset someone.

I myself have occasionally run into a person whom I believed should have recognized exactly who I am, only to see them clearly confused about that. (For example, an elderly congregant once stopped me on the street near Laurel Village and asked, “Excuse me. Are you my doctor or my Rabbi?!”) So I understand how hurtful it can be. And on that note, I apologize to those of you who have experienced this from me. I hope you know it is never intentional. I WANT to know your name, your face, your story. If you make an appointment through my assistant Saundrah (, as many of you have, and come to my office, I will take your photo and I will study it until I know you!

I believe I have a mild case of “prosopagnosia,” the medical term for the inability to distinguish faces. I have facial blindness. But each one of us has some type of “blindness” or another. September 1 coincides with the first day of Elul, a traditional time on the Jewish calendar of deep personal introspection as we prepare to ask forgiveness of others and of ourselves. Although Judaism teaches us to forgive those who have offended us on a nightly basis just before we fall asleep, the current calendar period offers us a special opportunity to focus on asking for and granting forgiveness.

I encourage you to give others the opportunity to say they are sorry, and I urge you to forgive those who offended you in this past year. Bitterness, anger, hurt, and offense are heavy burdens to lug from one year into the next. But our beloved tradition provides us with spiritual tools now (and year-round) to lighten those loads. May the month of Elul be, for you and for me, a deeply meaningful season of opening our eyes and forgiving.  

August 1, 2019

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Jonathan Singer

rabbi jonathan singerSelah! This word, which appears 74 times in the book of Psalms spelled with the Hebrew letter Heh, can be translated as “praise” or “forever.” But when spelled with the Hebrew letter Ayin, Selah means “rock” — like the rock that Moses incorrectly struck when seeking water in
the wilderness after Miriam (whose name may have meant “water finder”) had died.

I assume that the parents of Selah Schneiter, who is now, at the age of ten, the youngest person to have ever climbed El Capitan, named her after the geological formation. This daughter of two mountain climbers has certainly lived up to that designation, but as a 10-year-old record holder doing something that I, with my fear of heights, could never imagine doing, she is also worthy of praise (as the alternative Hebrew meaning of her name implies). While some might question the wisdom of encouraging one’s young child to participate in such a sport, Selah’s achievement does serve as a reminder that our kids can do amazing things when given the opportunity. This holds true when it comes to sports, secular school, and social justice opportunities, and must also apply to Jewish education, which includes our Emanu-El Youth and Family Education class offerings.

While many parents tell us they are glad that Emanu-El’s school endeavors create such a fun and engaging learning environment, one that builds community, as your synagogue leadership we have been spending much time thinking about how we can do even better. What can we do to meet the needs of children who want to climb higher, to help our youth who want to explore Torah in more creative ways, or build an even stronger sense of youth engagement and community? How can we integrate the latest in Jewish educational advancement, utilize technology, and better engage parents to collaborate in our desire to improve?

As a clergy team, along with our new head of school Lom Friedman, we have been pondering these questions and have already instituted new opportunities in the form of increased Hebrew offerings, expanded family retreats, and at-home self-guided elective enrichment projects. Out of these conversations has come a desire to implement a new curriculum that will provide more opportunities to our children through track electives, more support to our teachers, and better tools for our parents
to share with their children, creating opportunities for reinforcement at home. We are doing so in consultation with leading experts in Jewish education from the Hebrew Union College and the larger Reform movement. After having spent a first year getting to know our program, Lom is now working on some exciting projects and an educational vision that will unfold over the next few years.

We plan on introducing a new curriculum that supports more Hebrew and Torah learning while offering an experimental Hebrew-focused engagement track that will first be tested in this year’s 5th grade. We hope to provide more time for teacher meetings and training, to create a parent/ teacher association, and to form a professional educator support team that can help our teachers in the classroom. This fiscal year, we have added new support in our school, investing the precious dollars that you share with us as members and donors, to help build a better Emanu-El and a better Jewish future.

We believe that all children who participate in our school should emerge with a joyful connection to Judaism and the Jewish people and with a love of Torah that can help guide and support them in a challenging world. It is so important for our kids who are overtaxed with schoolwork and extracurricular activities to find value and meaning and joy in the time they spend at synagogue. With that in mind, we will continue to explore ways to grow our program, improve our physical teaching space, and make more resources available to our families.

There are always new heights to climb, and atop the highest rock, we are always trying to receive Torah. Educating our youth to fulfill their Jewish future is the job of the entire synagogue and it is our gift to our people. As your clergy, we welcome your support, engagement, and partnership in this holy work. Most importantly, we want you to encourage your children to come and study with us and to place Jewish education as a higher priority in their lives.

Amen Selah!


May 1, 2019

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Beth Singer

AH… MAY! MY FAVORITE OF ALL MONTHS, WITH ITS BEAUTIFUL LIGHT-FILLED, LENGTHY DAYS AND PLETHORA OF BLOSSOMS. The great flurry of culmination celebrations before the calm of summer: the end of the school year, graduations, Mother’s Day (a personal favorite), Memorial Day weekend, and major league baseball. We pack a lot into this month! My youngest offspring graduates college this May, and my daughter will be ordained as a Rabbi next May. On Friday, May 17 at 6:00 pm, our Emanu-El 12th-graders will lead us in a beautiful graduation Shabbat ceremony. If you have not attended in the past, mark your calendar and join us! The fruits of our Jewish educational labors blossom in May, and this service gives us hope for the future of our people. Then on to summer when the goal is to slow everything down. Take time off, travel, go to the beach. While we never “close,” during the summer, Emanu-El does take a break from the relentless pace of our diverse and vibrant programming opportunities.

We continue to hold services throughout the summer — every Friday night at 6:00 pm and Shabbat mornings at 10:30 am — as well as offer Torah study every Shabbat morning at 9:15 am. When you’re in town, please join us. Our services are relatively short; filled with music, tradition, and innovation; and (usually!) include an inspiring message from the Torah. Our services are a perfect way to frame your weekend. Additionally, because we all tend to spend less time expressing our Jewish identity at Temple during the summer, it’s a great time to inventory what makes our homes Jewish homes.

Your home can be a mini-temple and a center for building Jewish expressiveness, and we are here to help with that. Please let us know if you need assistance in affixing a mezuzah or a recommendation for a few good books to build your Jewish library (for example, The Golem and the Jinni by Helene Wecker makes for a fun summer fiction read). There are endless variations on ways to experience Shabbat in your own home. Many of you already have your own Shabbat practice, but if not, start by simply having two Shabbat candles at the ready for Friday nights (pick them up at the local grocery store or online). Select your wine or non-alcoholic fruit of the vine. Make or buy a challah. Invite a friend, or several friends, to your home. Organize a Shabbat potluck at home, or in a park. Change your Friday night or Saturday routine. Why? Shabbat is a GIFT provided by our Jewish tradition, and there are a million ways to practice it that result in a deeper sense of wellbeing, connection, and spirituality. Not religious? No problem. You can still celebrate a day of rest by including an intentional nap and some outdoor time on Saturdays. It’s always great to see you at Temple, but there is so much you can do at home.

Our eight Rabbis, two Cantors, and three Jewish educators are all on call to support you in building a Jewish home. August will be here before we know it. On Friday, August 23, we want all of you to show up to help welcome the Interfaith community at our 6:00 pm service with very special guest, Yemenite refugee Mohammed Al-Samawi, who was rescued by a handful of Jewish and Christian
individuals. But for now, it’s still May. So take a slow, deep breath. Smell the flowers. Celebrate your Mother. And plan to attend our Emanu-El graduation. It is all ahead of us…

April 22, 2019

Congregation Emanu-El deplores the violence committed this past Easter Sunday in Sri Lanka at various churches and hotels. In the wake of this terrible attack, we stand in solidarity against the perpetrators of hatred and violence. As the country recovers from this terrible incident, below are a couple of ways you can contribute to help the victims of these bombings.

Congregation Emanu-El Clergy

Sri Lanka Red Cross Society
Emergency Fundraiser for Sri Lanka Bombing Victims

April 1, 2019

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Jonathan Singer

rabbi jonathan singerThe Atlantis Resort in the Bahamas has jumped on the Passover bandwagon! This year, rather than cleaning your house, you can opt for a Seder at a resort that has been kashered for Passover! Enjoy Passover meals as Matasiyahu entertains you, and experience freedom for the entire week of the holiday!

That is one way to celebrate Yitziat Mitzrayim — the going out from Egypt — which our tradition teaches us to do for the week of Passover. The tradition of this festival encompasses the celebration of freedom, the enjoyment of a sumptuous spring feast, the chance to relax (recline), and the remembrance both of our liberation from slavery in Egypt and of our people surviving on Lechem Oni (matzah, the bread of affliction) as we wandered the desert for 40 years. While the observance of all of the above may seem contradictory, I believe the ancient rabbis wanted us to both recall and rejoice, zocher v’oneg! So at Seders, we drink fine wine while eating wonderful foods (some of which have “magically” conjured up with Passover Matzah meal), but also remember Avadim Hayunu by eating matzah — plain at first, then combined with bitter herbs, recalling both our liberation and our suffering, reconnecting to our people’s experience of oppression but ultimate redemption.

I am grateful that, in the diaspora, we have the opportunity to celebrate more than one Seder. While I love our congregational Seders, the chance to retell the story as a community, there is a formal reason for that gathering on the second night. The mitzvah of Passover commands you to “take a lamb and roast it, and eat it, with your loins girded, your shoes on your feet, and staff in your hand…it is a Passover Sacrifice to Adonai.” But note that it is our individual responsibility as Jews, in our own or our neighbor’s house, to observe and celebrate the Seder. The obligation is not upon the rabbis, but on each one of us, regardless of our level of knowledge or observance, to make a Seder — because each of us was redeemed from enslavement. Avadim HayenuV‘ata B’nai Horin!

The rabbinate here at Emanu-El encourage you, on that first or second night, to empower yourself by making a Seder, even if you have never done so before. We’re glad to share with you activities or discussion questions to make your Seder meaningful, and you can even download Haggadot from the internet! Your Seder can be adjusted to meet the needs of you and your guests, the children being engaged, and the topics of discussion and debate of the adults in attendance. Invite friends, Jewish or not, and set a beautiful table. It is your story to tell, your identity to affirm and celebrate.

The Atlantis Resort has it right: whether you’re in the Bahamas or the Himalayas or at home for Passover, make a Seder, bring matzah, and recall from whence we came… and with inspiration from the Holy, how we can keep going forward to bring redemption for all.

Chag Pesach Sameach!


March 15, 2019

Grace Cathedral and Congregation Emanu-El Joint Statement on Christchurch shooting

Grace Cathedral and Congregation Emanu-El stand with the Christchurch Muslim community, our New Zealand friends and the Muslim community of San Francisco in their time of grief and mourning. This type of violence and the hate that motivates it is unacceptable in any country and people of all faiths worldwide have a responsibility to stand up and say no. No one should fear for their safety when attending their house of worship.

This tragedy occurred on Friday afternoon when the mosque was filled with people who gathered for Friday prayers, just as the Pittsburgh killer attacked Jews at their synagogue, and the Charleston killer attacked an African American Church. This type of violence is driven by racial, religious, and ethnic hatred. Every person of faith has a responsibility to denounce this in the strongest possible terms.

In the wake of this terrible attack, we call on our Jewish and Christian brothers and sisters to commit themselves to oppose Islamophobia and to demonstrate acts of solidarity with their Muslim neighbors, co-workers, and others just as we stand against anti-Semitism and hatred against Christians or any person of faith.

We affirm our human solidarity with our Muslim sisters and brothers, inheritors with us of the Abrahamic faith and our belief that every individual on this planet, no matter their color, faith or sexual orientation, is a reflection of the Holy and deserves to live in safety and in freedom.

Clergy & Leadership of Grace Cathedral and Congregation Emanu-El 



March 1, 2019

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Jonathan Singer

rabbi jonathan singerThe Atlantis Resort in the Bahamas has jumped on the Passover bandwagon! This year, rather than cleaning your house, you can opt for a Seder at a resort that has been kashered for Passover! Enjoy Passover meals as Matasiyahu entertains you, and experience freedom for the entire week of the holiday!

That is one way to celebrate Yitziat Mitzrayim — the going out from Egypt — which our tradition teaches us to do for the week of Passover. The tradition of this festival encompasses the celebration of freedom, the enjoyment of a sumptuous spring feast, the chance to relax (recline), and the remembrance both of our liberation from slavery in Egypt and of our people surviving on Lechem Oni (matzah, the bread of affliction) as we wandered the desert for 40 years. While the observance of all of the above may seem contradictory, I believe the ancient rabbis wanted us to both recall and rejoice, zocher v’oneg! So at Seders, we drink fine wine while eating wonderful foods (some of which have “magically” conjured up with Passover Matzah meal), but also remember Avadim Hayunu by eating matzah — plain at first, then combined with bitter herbs, recalling both our liberation and our suffering, reconnecting to our people’s experience of oppression but ultimate redemption.

I am grateful that, in the diaspora, we have the opportunity to celebrate more than one Seder. While I love our congregational Seders, the chance to retell the story as a community, there is a formal reason for that gathering on the second night. The mitzvah of Passover commands you to “take a lamb and roast it, and eat it, with your loins girded, your shoes on your feet, and staff in your hand… it is a Passover Sacrifice to Adonai.” But note that it is our individual responsibility as Jews, in our own or our neighbor’s house, to observe and celebrate the Seder. The obligation is not upon the rabbis, but on each one of us, regardless of our level of knowledge or observance, to make a Seder — because each of us was redeemed from enslavement. Avadim Hayenu – V’ata B’nai Horin!

The rabbinate here at Emanu-El encourage you, on that first or second night, to empower yourself by making a Seder, even if you have never done so before. We’re glad to share with you activities or discussion questions to make your Seder meaningful, and you can even download Haggadot from the internet!

Your Seder can be adjusted to meet the needs of you and your guests, the children being engaged, and the topics of discussion and debate of the adults in attendance. Invite friends, Jewish or not, and set a beautiful table. It is your story to tell, your identity to affirm and celebrate. The Atlantis Resort has it right: whether you’re in the Bahamas or the Himalayas or at home for Passover, make a Seder, bring matzah, and recall from whence we came…and with inspiration from the Holy, how we can keep going forward to bring redemption for all.

Chag Pesach Sameach!

February 1, 2019

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Jonathan Singer

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This summer I will be leading a multi-generational, multi-faceted trip to Israel that will take us to Jerusalem, Tel Aviv, and the north. We’ll drink kosher wine, raft on the Jordan, and stop in Safed for three of our youth to celebrate their bar/bat mitzvahs. The trip will also provide the opportunity to dialogue with settlers and Palestinians on the West Bank, discuss the tech revolution taking place there, and engage with Reform Jewish leaders working for an equal place at the Israeli table. Beginning the last week in June and running through the first week of July,this trip will mark my second foray to Israel this year (having just been there as part of a Reform/Conservative Bay Area Rabbi trip organized by the Consul General’s office.)

While such trips to Israel are filled with meaning, spiritual connection, and joy — because Israel is so beautiful and there is so much to do there — they are also important in terms of how we envision and work together for a stronger Jewish future. We live in a “bipolar” Jewish world, where two of the significant Jewish population clusters are equally dynamic and creative, not unlike Babylonia and Jerusalem of the ancient period, each of which produced a Talmud that has guided Jewish life for the past 2,000 years. Our new reality also represents significant change that can be worrisome to some as influence shifts and we become equal forces in the Jewish journey, with Israel no longer the junior partner, either politically or economically. When shifts occur, people wonder whether we will continue to support each community going forward or whether we will turn inward and not consider the needs of the other. Certainly, there are those in both communities who assert that each should go its own way. From that Israeli perspective, the American diaspora is diminishing and Reform Judaism represents assimilation, while there are those in our community who so dislike certain Israeli political decisions that they want to pull away from a place that doesn’t seem to respect their expression of Judaism, or that could be abandoning the peace process.

What the trips do, whether it is a synagogue journey, a Birthright experience, a semester abroad, or a rabbinic mission, is build bridges of understanding and debunk myths about one another. When we as Reform Jews dialogue with Israelis in that beautiful land, they come to see that we are a vibrant engaged community, with hundreds of children learning in our school and families of all types embracing Jewish values. Our version of Judaism is growing rather than disappearing. And while we are there in person, we see that, although the politics and conflicts are complex, there are Israelis working on the ground for peace, human rights, and intergroup understanding, and who are making progress. The trip becomes a myth buster for both sides and helps remind us that we are at an amazing point in Jewish history, where we have to figure out how a vibrant Diaspora and a vibrant State of Israel can move forward — not just in celebration of Jewish life, but as a light to the nations building a better future for all.

Reinhold Niebuhr, a great friend of Rabbi Heschel taught that meeting on the personal level provides the pathway to understanding and leads to solutions of blessing. Consider a trip to Israel, and contact me if you would like to know more about the one I am leading this summer. Know that when you go to Israel, you are not just touring, you are community building. And join with us in our work on the Israel Action Committee to keep the spirit of dialogue and engagement happening between two amazing Jewish communities that we are so blessed to be able to experience at this moment in history.

January 1, 2019

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Beth Singer

Saturday, October 27, 2018 is a date we will always remember. The day of the gun massacre during Shabbat morning services at the Tree of Life synagogue in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. Killing eleven and wounding several others, this hate crime was the deadliest attack
against American Jews in the history of the United States. All weekend long following the shooting in Pittsburgh, Emanu-El congregants streamed into our building. Most
wore expressions of sadness and grim determination on their faces. Hugs lasted longer than usual. Then phone calls and text messages started coming in. The first voice
message I heard on that Saturday was from Reverend Amos Brown, our beloved partner from Third Baptist Church. Reverend Brown expressed the deepest level of kinship in the wake of such a brutal anti-Semitic attack, and he asked how he could be here for us. Michael Pappas, head of the San Francisco Interfaith Council, also checked in immediately, offering all forms of support. Among the many calls and texts I received throughout that weekend, the vast majority were from leaders of other faiths, and particularly from African-American members of our Black- Jewish Unity Group. Each one asked the same question: “How can I be there for you and for your community?”

In the weeks that followed, we received letters from other local religious leaders, as well as from neighbors who simply wanted us to know that they share our sorrow. One
woman wrote, “To my beloved friends and neighbors of the beautiful Congregation Emanu-El, I love you all very much. This San Francisco lady will always love you.” In the
wake of the tragedy, these communications of support were such a comfort. But also a reminder of how important it is to not simply think about victims of racial injustice, but
to actually reach out to them. Reaching out is a big part of what we do at Congregation Emanu-El. Community relationship and partnership building are a sacred part of our work.

To that end, in 1988, Congregation Emanu-El joined with Third Baptist Church in founding an interfaith tutorial program called “Back on Track” for underserved students
in our community. The clergy who founded this program— Reverend Amos Brown and Rabbi Robert Kirschner — also started an annual Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. pulpit
exchange, which we proudly continue to this day.

Please be with us on Friday, January 18 for the MLK Commemoration Service, one
of our most inspiring Shabbat gatherings of the year. Details on this service are providedin this issue of the Chronicle. Please contact me if you’d like to be a welcoming ambassador
that evening. Join us also on January 20 for Sunday morning services at Third Baptist Church.
Each year, a great number of Emanu-El congregants participate in this joyous event, and
it means so much to the congregants at Third Baptist to see us there. See details inside this issue of the Chronicle. Some of our dearest partnerships are with the Jewish Community Relations Council, the San Francisco Interfaith Council, the American Jewish Committee, and our own Black-Jewish Unity Group. Members of San Francisco’s dwindling African-American community who show up to our meeting on the second Thursday of each month, at the African-American Arts and Culture Center on Fulton Street, feel a particular kinship with Jews. The meetings are so warm. We get to know each other better and we commit to acts of racial justice.

When something as evil and tragic as a mass shooting occurs in a house of worship — whether at the Emanuel African-American Methodist Episcopal Church in Charleston, South Carolina in 2015; the First Baptist Church in Sutherland Springs, Texas in 2017; or the Tree
of Life Synagogue in Pittsburgh just a couple months ago — partnerships between our faiths are imperative. With partnership, we realize what we have in common, learn about our differences, and most importantly, show up for each other when one group is targeted. Until we collectively figure out a way to reduce gun violence in communities around the country, in public places and houses of worship, it is almost a sure bet that our group (or another group) will be targeted again and again. Building strong partnerships that underscore our shared humanity is some of the holiest work we do here at Emanu-El.

November 1, 2018

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Beth Singer

It’s a Movement!

Whenever I need a quick reminder of how modest my contributions to the rabbinate have been over the past 29 years, all I have to do is think of Rabbi Isaac Mayer Wise. You may not recognize the name, but I assure you, the accomplishments and legacy of Rabbi Wise have significantly impacted your life. Like many German Jews, Rabbi Wise arrived in America in the mid-1800s. As he surveyed the American Jewish landscape at that time, with its hodge podge of disparate communities, he saw a need for two initiatives: (1) to reform and update Judaism, making it palatable to American Jews; and (2) to bring all American Jewry together under a single unified body. Clearly, he had never heard the joke about the shipwrecked Jew rescued from a desert island who, while marooned, had built two synagogues (one he wouldn’t set foot in!).

Be that as it may, Rabbi Wise did end up having a monumental role in shaping our lives by creating four very significant building blocks of new American Judaism:

  • The Union of American Hebrew Congregations (now known as the Union for Reform Judaism [URJ]), in 1873
  • The Hebrew Union College, in 1875
  • The Central Conference of American Rabbis, in 1889
  • The Union Prayerbook, in 1894

Take note of the names he chose for each of these elements; because he sought to unite ALL American Jews, none of them includes the word “Reform” in the title!

While Rabbi Wise’s goal of creating ONE Judaism proved impossible — we now have many flourishing denominations (including Reform, Reconstructionist, Orthodox, Conservative, Renewal, Humanist, anti-denominational “Indie” movements, and numerous distinctive Hasidic branches) — such a diversity ensures a healthy, robust Judaism. Although every Jew is united to the whole by Torah, we need choices in how Torah teachings and values are incorporated into our daily lives, and multiple interpretations of our civilizational religion are vital to its sustainability.

The movement that Rabbi Wise created has flourished, and with its hallmark of embracing both tradition and innovation, Reform Judaism is now the largest denomination in North America! For example, one Reform leader — Rabbi Alexander Schindler — was an early adopter of the value of welcoming interfaith families into our congregations. Rabbi Schindler was a visionary who recognized that many families with parents from two different backgrounds want to raise a Jewish family and pass Torah along to the next generation. Additionally, Rabbi Rick Jacobs, the current leader of the URJ (and my boss for four years in my early years in the rabbinate) is an unapologetic Zionist who believes that Reform Judaism deserves full recognition in Israel.

Rabbi Jacobs will be speaking at our One Shabbat Service on Friday, November 9. He will also be in attendance to witness our Young Adult Late Shabbat that same evening, as recognizing Jewish millennials as the future of Judaism is another one of his passions. Please plan to be with us on November 9 for both services!

Mark your calendar also for December 11–14, 2019 (yes, a whole year from now) to join a delegation of Emanu-El members in attending the URJ Biennial in Chicago. This conference will provide a great opportunity to communicate with other Reform Jews about current issues, and to experience the thrill of a communal Shabbat along with 5,000 other Reform Jews all singing and experiencing Torah together!

As Judaism evolves, I believe that Reform Judaism will continue to serve the needs of a large segment of American Jews more effectively than any other denomination. Again, I invite you to join us at the November 9 One Shabbat Service so you can hear directly from the current leader of the Reform Jewish movement!

October 1, 2018

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Jonathan Singer

rabbi jonathan singerJust a few days ago on Simchat Torah, we unfurled the entire Torah scroll as we chanted the last verses
of Deuteronomy and began the cycle of study again by chanting the first verses of Genesis. I love that moment of seeing the community gathered in a circle around the open scroll. It symbolizes the never-ending process, not just of a community engaging Torah, but also of one giving and receiving the Torah. The mystical scholar Daniel Matt famously translated a section of Kabbalah that teaches a different perspective on the words Olam ha Bah — that we should not be thinking of the world to come, but
rather see that the world is always coming at us! 
To me, this translation epitomizes the process of giving and receiving Torah, for our belief is that the holiness of wisdom is always coming to us. The question is, will we be receptors and then
transmitters ourselves? In a Reform community like ours, many people — who either are in a Jewish community for the first time, have returned to Judaism after a time away, or did not grow up with deep
Jewish learning — might feel intimidated or unqualified to be such a receiver and transmitter. Often they tell me, “I don’t know the Hebrew, Rabbi” or “I didn’t grow up learning the prayers; that kind of engagement is for the next generation.” But the Torah teaches that this wisdom was first transmitted to our people at Sinai, to those recently freed slaves who also did not grow up with deep Jewish
knowledge. Perhaps the Torah is trying to teach us that, at any point in our lives, we can be receivers and transmitters of holiness and wonder. The Talmud holds up Rabbi Akiva as one of the greatest examples of a person learning Torah as an adult, as he transforms from an ignorant shepherd into the
leading scholar of his day.
Of course, you may not aspire to be the next Rabbi Akiva. But we invite you to see how you can be a transmitter and receiver, and how your life experience can be enriched by participating in any aspect of our adult learning program. At Emanu-El we hold the deep belief that learning Torah is not meant solely for our children, but for all B’nei Yisrael.The people Israel should keep learning! You can learn to decode the alef bet with Cantor Attie or decide to join our Anshei (adult) B’nei Mitzvah program. Either way, you will learn with our cantors and rabbis in a deep, joyful way that will lead to you teaching and sharing
Torah in a beautiful ceremony. On Tuesdays, our weekly Torah adult education series is also beginning, offering to show you how Torah applies to not only the intellectual, but also the cultural (with Broadway lyricism) and the spiritual (with yoga). On Saturdays, we offer two wonderful Torah study groups, and you are welcome to drop in and try out this participatory learning program (no prior knowledge required). We also have our Sunday morning Beit Midrash, with the first quarter taught by Rabbi Pearce. On the first Wednesday of the month, look for our brown bag drop-in study here at the temple or at “Limonata and Learning” in Marin. And don’t forget our Emanu-El Reads group, which will begin with Philip Roth’s
American Pastoral on October 23 (see Adult Education section for more information). We are practicing a living Judaism, with Torah that is always being given and received. You have a role in making it even
more vibrant and joyful!
Sunday, November 11, 2:00 – 4:00 pm,
Martin Meyer Sanctuary
Annual Kristallnacht (Pogromnacht)
Commemoration – Special Afternoon with renowned educator, Rachel Korazim Rachel Korazim is a freelance Jewish education consultant in curriculum development for Israel and Holocaust education. She engages audiences worldwide through innovative presentations built around the stories, poems, and songs of Israel’s best writers. Rachel’s thought-provoking talks open a window onto Israeli society, inviting listeners to engage with the country and its history in new ways. This program is designed to engage intergenerational conversation around the Holocaust. Children 11+ are welcome (younger kids may participate at parental discretion).
This program is in partnership with the Shalom Hartman Institute and the Koret Foundation.

September 1, 2018

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Jonathan Singer

rabbi jonathan singerAccording to Rabbi Eleazar, one of the great teachers of the Talmud, our world was created during

the month of Tishrei. Eleazar connected the beginning of existence with the sixth day (or unit, as I prefer) of the creation narrative because the human story began at that moment. The mystics, however, teach that the world is always being recreated; existence is always upon us! The Jewish New Year is a moment of demarcation that reminds us of our potential to move beyond the static and unite with the holy in the process of renewing our creation.

Within this Gregorian calendar month, our congregation will fully celebrate Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, Sukkot, and Simchat Torah. Also this month, our religious and Hebrew schools and adult learning programs will be opening for the season, and our social justice offerings will be seeking to engage you. It may feel as if the Jewish world is in a sense coming at you, but each holiday and each offering at the temple beckons you to connect and find a gateway to your personal renewal. We, of course, hope that you will take advantage of what these holidays have to offer. At a time when we conduct so much of our lives virtually — where the pressure of personal achievement diminishes our sense of meaning, where the noise of hate speech and the flashing lights of celebrity culture exhaust your senses — these days of holiness offer an alternative path to renewal. They express optimism that we can grow and change, and that each in his or her own way make a difference.

In our Jewish tradition, each holiday builds upon the other, and that is especially true this month. It’s time to take off from your routine. Bring your children and friends along as we celebrate the convergence of four holidays:

Rosh Hashanah, which welcomes the new year with sweetness and a call to personal growth. Join us in prayer and then gather at the beach to cast off the weight of pain or numbness that has been holding you back.

Yom Kippur, which invites you to embrace a day of deep personal introspection supported by a community renewing itself in prayer, meditation, learning, and the nurturing of hope! Stay the day and participate in this form of Jewish communal therapy as you seek forgiveness and look to a better future.

Sukkot, which beckons you to reconnect with the life-giving presence of the earth by celebrating the harvest and dwelling under a canopy of hope. Sukkot is the real conclusion of Yom Kippur as we transition from turning inward to focusing outward on the joy of life’s harvest. This year, you might even build your own sukkah! But also spend some time in our beautiful communal sukkah, greeting others, drinking in the stars above, and allowing your senses to fill with wonder.

Simchat Torah, which asks you to participate in the dance of learning as we unfurl the sacred scroll and turn the year over again, concluding with the beginning as the Jewish dance continues. There will be live music and the blessing of new students, and you will raise the scroll of hope.

This is a month of wonder, and the world is indeed coming at you. Allow yourself to receive the blessing by joining in community here at Emanu-El!

June 14, 2018

We, as your clergy, endorse the following statement drafted by the Reform Movement and joined by 26  national Jewish organizations expressing strong opposition to the cruel practice of separating children from their migrants parents when they cross the border.

Read the full letter here.

Clergy statement on the violence in Gaza

May 18, 2018

שאלו שלום ירושלם ישליו אהביך
Pray for the peace of Jerusalem
May those who love you be at peace. 
(Psalm 122:6)

These are words from the heart. This is not a political statement or call for any policy, but rather, this is a prayer for the future. As your rabbis and cantors, we hold a diversity of views on what can feel like an unending and hopeless conflict between Israelis and Palestinians in a land that we, as a community, have such deep love for. We know that this diversity is reflected in our big Emanu-El tent and that it is part of what makes us a vibrant and strong community.

As our tradition teaches, we mourn the loss of all life, Palestinian and Israeli, in this tragic conflict. We recall that the book of Genesis teaches that each person is created b’tzelem Elohim, in the image of God. Each human life is worthy of mourning and memory. We cry out to the heavens for a different future for Zion who weeps, and at the same time, call upon leadership in the region and around the globe, to help bring about a just and lasting peace that upholds the rights of all peoples to live in safety and dignity.

We ask that God grant each of us the patience and openness to hear the many ideas, hopes, fears and perspectives among our own community, and that each of us does so with respect and care, trusting that the passion in each of us is rooted in a desire for a brighter future.

We pray for Israel. May we soon see the time when the vision of our people is fulfilled, that it will be a land of peace; flowing with the milk and honey of kindness, love, joy, and justice. We pray that it will be a place where, as the prophet Isaiah teaches, “they shall beat their swords into plowshares and their spears into pruning hooks.”

With love, we leave you with this beautiful song for peace written by Cantor Attie. We also encourage our community to experience Israel on the ground. We offer annual trips led by our clergy and we hope that you will join us on one in the future.

May 1, 2018

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Jonathan Singer

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At the end of the Jewish conversion process, we convene a beit din (religious court) to interview the candidate. Often, the beit din is composed of a tribunal of rabbis, and the experience for both clergy and convert is extraordinarily moving and meaningful. Last month, standing on China Beach, Rabbis Bauer and Fenves and I interviewed a member wishing to convert, and then witnessed him immerse himself in the coastal waters as he became part of the Jewish people. It was a beautiful moment and a highlight of our rabbinic work.

This month, we celebrate Shavuot, which commemorates the giving of the Torah at Mount Sinai as well as honoring the wheat harvest in the Land of Israel. It is customary to read the Book of Ruth, found in the Tanach, during Shavuot — possibly because it describes the spring harvest. But it is also thought that we read Ruth’s text on Shavuot because her act of accepting the God of the Israelites exemplifies a person receiving Torah today. Ruth is the quintessential convert, and her name is invoked whenever we perform a conversion ceremony. To the person wishing to convert, we ask: “Will you uphold Ruth’s example who said, ‘Wherever you go, I will go. Where you lodge, I will lodge. Your people shall be my people, and your God, my God.’”

If the latter justification for invoking the Book of Ruth on Shavuot is the correct one, it echoes the notion that, whenever someone embraces Judaism, it is as if their soul were at Sinai. From that perspective, the Torah is always being given as long as there are people with open hearts and minds to receive it. Judaism is not only transmitted by genes; one can embrace Jewish life and be a deliverer of Torah to the entire community. The tradition teaches that Ruth was the great-grandmother of King David, so that means the messianic line begins with a convert; it does not date back to Moses! Further, the journey of conversion was HER journey — with no rabbi present, no male authority figure validating it — just a woman in front of her mother-in-law declaring her new identity. A Midrash teaches that the burning bush was always a flame, and that what distinguished Moses is that he stepped aside to really observe it and absorb its meaning. Perhaps that is another way of understanding the notion that Torah is always being given. Ruth looked deeply into the tree of Jewish life and then embraced Torah. That day at the beach, I was so moved as I watched Torah being given in the moment. I hope you will join us this month with our communal partners for a Tikkun Leyl Shavuot celebration at the JCC. Our challenge, born Jewish or not, is to be open to observing and discerning and then to receiving. Sinai is always around us, the bush is still aflame, and we can choose to receive and embrace a living Judaism!

April 1, 2018

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Beth Singer

I am terrible at remembering jokes, but for some reason, this one always stays with me: Jakey has lived a very long, wonderful life, but he lies on his deathbed upstairs at home, mostly unconscious. One morning, as his beloved of 60+ years sits at his side, his eyes suddenly flutter open. “Jakey! My Jakey, what is it?” She asks. Jakey, who doctors predicted might have died days ago, pulls himself upright for a moment and with a beatific smile asks, “Darling, is that your kugel I smell? Oh, that kugel! Yours is the best. Before I die, may I just have a few bites of your wonderful kugel?” She strokes his head and whispers, “I’m so sorry darling. It’s for the shiva!” We Jews love our rituals and perhaps none are quite so helpful as the Jewish rituals that carry us through the choppy waters of grief and loss. Prior to the practices of contemporary medicine that save so many lives and increase our longevity, people experienced the death of loved ones on a much more regular basis. And before there were hospitals, nursing homes, hospice services, and funeral chapels, the families dealt with those deaths directly. The tradeoff, both for longer lives and for memorial chapels handling most of the details, is that it becomes difficult for us to regard death as a natural part of life. That is why I am delighted that Congregation Emanu-El is helping sponsor and host Reimagine End of Life. As you will read inside this month’s Chronicle, the Reimagine End of Life event explores death, dying, and bereavement, and celebrates life through the arts, spirituality, health care, and innovation. We are grateful to our own Rabbi Sydney Mintz for making Congregation Emanu-El one of the hubs for conversation on this challenging yet vital topic.

Throughout my years as a rabbi, I have noticed that even some Reform Jews who observe few Jewish ritual commandments often feel so bereft in the immediate period following the death of a loved one thatthe litany of Jewish burial and mourning rituals becomes an indispensable road map for walking through those first painful days, weeks, and months. The Jewish tradition’s preference for implementing the burial (or these days, cremation) as soon as possible, the several nights of shiva, the burning of the seven-day (yahrzeit) candle, the practice of reciting the Mourner’s Kaddish, and the indispensable gathering of the community all provide essential guideposts. It’s worth knowing the Jewish laws even if you choose to improvise. Maurice Lamm’s The Jewish Way in Death and Mourning is a practical guide to all of these traditions. Another of my favorite books to recommend to congregants struggling with grief is Naomy Levy’s To Begin Again: The Journey Toward Comfort, Strength, and Faith in Difficult Times. And, of course, every clergy person at Emanu- El is here for you when you need to talk. We will listen. But don’t wait until loss is upon you. Please join the Reimagine End of Life conversation this April 16 through 22.

March 1, 2018

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Jonathan Singer

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March 2018 is unusual in that Purim and Passover both fall within the same Gregorian calendar month. Each of these two holidays has its own specific text. As well, each calls for a “feast,” encouraging us to drink fruit of the vine while enjoying symbolic foods. It is customary for Jews to engage in the “latke vs. hamantaschen” debate, humorously showing off our intellectual pugilism with regard to savory and sweet flavors (for me, the latke always wins). But when it comes to a matchup between the traditional foods of Purim and Passover — that is, matzah vs. hamantaschen — you would, of course, expect the sweet pastry to easily beat the rather bland cracker-like item as the desired culinary choice. Especially when it comes to someone like me who doesn’t particularly enjoy matzah in any of its many forms (egg, shmora, whole wheat, or gluten free). However, because the consumption of matzah for one week is commanded in the Torah, matzah remains the foodstuff we eat more of. We are instructed to eat lechem oni (“bread of poverty” or “bread of affliction”) for seven days, to remember that we were once slaves in Egypt and that now we are free. In other words, while noshing on hamantaschen — whether strawberry, poppy seed, or date filled — is fun, eating matzah is essential. The consumption of our ritual unleavened bread is not just an act of culinary memory about our redemption, however. It is also a tangible reminder that we should embrace humility and gratitude, that we should honor our descendants from slavery and appreciate the freedom we now enjoy as a precious gift from God that should be protected and shared with others.

Many of us are accustomed to eating matzah only at seders, or perhaps at a matzah-brei brunch. But our tradition bids us to eat it in place of bread throughout the entire seven days of Passover. Therefore, weshould eat matzah throughout the day — in the morning with our eggs, with our lunches at work or school, and as an accompaniment to our dinners.I ask you, as Jews of San Francisco, to consider publicly embracing this mitzvah. To proudly eat matzah in the dining area of your workplace or even as you sit at a fabulous restaurant downtown. I ask you to do this as an act of resistance against conformity, against just blending in. Let us say hineyni (here I am), a proud Jewish San Franciscan, who celebrates the freedom to be who I am! I’m going to eat avocado and matzah for breakfast and matzah pizza for lunch, and I plan to carry extra matzah with me to hand out to people wherever I go. In addition, we hope to have pop-up Passover tables at various grocery stores in the days before the holiday. No, I still don’t particularly like the taste of matzah, but I love what it represents. So please join me in this act of culinary memory and identity affirmation!

I hope you enjoy Purim…but get ready for Passover!


February 1, 2018

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Beth Singer

When I arrived at Congregation Emanu-El in 2013, the first thing I did was study up on the Giants. The second thing I did was read Visions of Reform, Fred Rosenbaum’s history of Congregation Emanu-El. My former congregation in Seattle was soon to celebrate its 60th anniversary; Congregation Emanu-El, on the other hand, had been here for well over 160 years!

As I read the book, I realized that Jonathan and I represent a mere chapter in the ever-unfolding story that is our beloved Congregation Emanu-El. At nearly five years in, I  now recognize that one of our most important challenges is preserving Emanu-El’s traditional essence, while also changing with the needs of the times. The experience of

being a San Francisco Jew, of any age, is very different now than it was back in the mid-1800s, or at any point in the 20th century. For example, 50 years ago, in 1968, a Jewish family moving into a new town would likely join the local congregation as a matter of course. By contrast, in 2018, a Jewish family moving to San Francisco is likely to ask: Do we really need a temple? Will we use the temple enough to justify the cost of membership? If we just want our child to have a bar or bat mitzvah, wouldn’t it be easier (and cheaper) to simply hire a tutor and conduct the ceremony in the

backyard? In our current reality, if a congregation is to thrive, it has to offer a wide variety of compelling opportunities and experiences that draw people and respond to life’s big question: “Why?”

Not everyone wants to come to weekly services, so we have worked over the past four years to reinvigorate adult learning, social justice, educational and cultural opportunities, and of course a vibrant, soulful Friday night experience that gets people out the door by 7:10 p.m. With our talented team of clergy and staff, we are currently working to upgrade our preschool and religious education experiences, develop a teen leadership track, and create more opportunities for temple “boomers.” So

I was taken by surprise recently when I met with a deeply thoughtful congregant who shared her sense that, based on recent studies, we shouldn’t count on another 168 years of Congregation Emanu-El. “This new generation of millennials don’t join things,” she noted and “people in the future might have no use for synagogues.” Well, as Yogi Berra said, “It’s tough to make predictions, especially about the future”;

however, I’m placing a heavy wager on the future of Judaism and of Congregation Emanu-El. For one thing, I think millennials are not given enough credit. While it is true that people in their 20s and 30s don’t join congregations as much as people in their 40s and 50s, a surprising percentage of our membership are millennials! So, although the conventional wisdom is that the iPhone generation will go through their entire lives getting everything they need from the worldwide web, the internet is no substitute for the true human connection that people crave. Judaism has been offering time-tested varieties of connectedness via authentic rituals, wrestling with the idea

of something greater, and an injunction to come together as a people to repair the world. I believe that, if anything, as the iGeneration heads into their 40s and 50s, they

will realize an even more urgent need to seek out authentic community to supplement virtual community. So the onus is on our synagogue to respond to those religious, spiritual, and human needs, as Judaism has done so well for thousands of years. We will need to listen harder and be both flexible and intent on maintaining the integrity of our practices. I place my bet on the future of Judaism because of our people’s solid track record for surviving one crisis after another. And because Judaism provide a powerful response to our question of “why?”

One of my favorite books – which I share with all of my bat and bar mitzvah students – is a timeline of Jewish history that unfolds across the length of my office. That and the 534 pages of Visions of Reform remind us of the enduring nature of Judaism. We have the power to create the future of Judaism that will be a gift and a blessing to our great-greatgrandchildren and to their great-great-grandchildren. Who’s in?

January 1, 2018

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Jonathan Singer

rabbi jonathan singerWhen we read the news and come across a disturbing story about someone acting immorally, we tend to hope that the people connected to that event are not Jews. We dearly want those in our little tribe to be associated only with righteous actions rather than unethical or criminal behavior; we don’t want to see Jews standing in the way of progress toward racial and gender equality and a leveling of the economic playing field.

We must be careful, however, of engaging in wishful thinking, for denial is antithetical to a tradition that requires us to face our shortcomings and engage in the process of teshuva (repentance). We must accept that some members of our community do not live up to our standards of morality, because only when such deep societal problems are brought out into the open can they be addressed and corrected. Yes, for the most part, Jews believe in and practice justice.

But there are some among us who lie and steal, who engage in sexual harassment and other forms of abuse. We cannot embrace the achievements of our people without also acknowledging our faults, despite the communal embarrassment we might feel when confronted by the world at large. If we are to fulfill our purpose as a prophetic people, we must speak our truth to power. For example, men in our culture – Jewish men – must take ownership of an overly sexualized dynamic in which people in power are allowed to exploit and assault those over which they wield that power.

We must call it for what it is: abuse! And we must proclaim that it is unacceptable. Certainly, there is no correlation between Judaism and such offensive actions; however, because we are Jewish, we must examine the behavior of our own and scrutinize how we are communicating and implementing Jewish values within our community. Judaism teaches that another person’s body is inviolate, and that women and men are reflections of God. Our faith encourages us to experience love and wonder and to see our bodies as gifts from God, but also mandates that physical interaction between two people must be consensual. Judaism argues for seeing beauty in personal humility. It deeply opposes the idolatry of self in which successful, powerful people believe that such standing affords them the right to be abusive or destructive. There is no such right, our Torah teaches, and those who behave in such a way must be called out. It is good that idols in our popular culture who have engaged in predatory behavior are now falling from grace as women are bravely speaking out against the sexual violations they have experienced.

We will work this year on teaching our children about the Jewish perspective on the blessing of human sexuality, and that sexual harassment is never okay. We will do the same as well throughout the congregation, ensuring that our synagogue is not just a safe place to work or to participate in, but also a place that promotes equal rights and a balance of power between men and women. Each of us is a reflection of the holy, and when guided by the wisdom of Judaism, we can bring more blessings and hope into a world that is deeply in need.

December 1, 2017

8 Tzedek Gift Ideas!

By Beth Singer, Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi

“Chanukah is really a minor holiday without a history of gift-giving,” we often hear told.  But the truth is that Chanukah in America has become a season of shopping and giving wrapped gifts to family and friends.

Not all gifts need to come wrapped with a bow!  Let us commemorate the eight days of miracle by taking upon ourselves the practice of doing mitzvot for the sake of others on each night of Chanukah. Below is a list of eight different ways to make a difference in the world this Chanukah. You can do these as an individual, as a family or with a group of friends. Some of these cannot be done on the actual night, but between December 12th through 19th let us commit ourselves to as many of these opportunities to increase the light.

1)  December Collection Drive: Toiletries for the homeless men in San Francisco
Next time you go to the dentist or you stay in a hotel, please ask for a donation of supplies to give to the homeless men staying in the Winter Interfaith Shelters this winter and bring to Emanu-El during the full month of December.

2)  Jewish Family Children’s Services Chanukah Toy Drive
Jewish Family and Children’s Services is hosting a holiday toy drive to benefit families in Sonoma County displaced by the fires as well as low-income families and those who have experienced domestic violence and homelessness in San Francisco. Please drop off new, unwrapped, toys for children of all ages or gift cards (often great for teens – iTunes,, etc…) by Dec. 8, Mon. – Fri., 8:30 am – 5:30 pm. For more information contact or 415-449-3824. Items must be received no later than December 8th!

3)  Beach Cleanup and Environmental Awareness
Earlier this fall, a beloved congregant, 27-year old Jeremy Dossetter, died when his helicopter fell into the ocean in Hawaii.  Jeremy loved the beach and always picked up trash each time he went to the beach to surf.  Take a day of Chanukah with yourself or with your family or with your friends to carry forward Jeremy’s work by cleaning up a local beach for one hour.  Learn 8 new facts, one every night of Chanukah, about an environmental problem, like climate change, via internet research.

4)  Light Chanukah Candles with the Black-Jewish Unity Group on Thursday, December 14th
We meet from 6-7:30 PM at the African American Arts and Culture Complex at 762 Fulton Street to strengthen African-American-Jewish relationships and to fight racial injustice in our community.  You are always welcome to join us the second Thursday of each month.

5)  Cooking for Congregants
Help your fellow congregants during a time of need.  Register online to join this mitzvah of cooking meals for our congregants who are in need either facing a recent illness, death, or birth, happening on select Thursday mornings in the Temple kitchen.

6)  Winter Interfaith Shelter Dinner: Congregant night, January 22, 2018
Join Emanu-El in the mitzvah of feeding the hungry by providing volunteers to shop, cook and serve dinner to over 100 homeless men for eight consecutive nights at St. Mark’s Lutheran Church.  Join your constituent group at Emanu-El or volunteer on open congregant night on Monday, January 22, 2018. Learn more:

7)  January Collection Drive: Multi-cultural books for the Jewish Coalition for Literacy
Many Bay Area public schools lack well-stocked libraries or the funds to buy new books. Help provide our local schools with multicultural picture books for grades Pre-K through 3rd (ages 4–9). Donate anytime during the month of January 2018, and look for this collection drive to be featured at our Annual MLK Shabbat Service with Third Baptist Church on January 12.
8)  Tu’Bshvat with Hamilton Families
This Tu B’Shevat, join your fellow congregants as we beautify Hamilton’s Transitional Housing garden with new plants, trees, and flowers on Sunday, January 28, 2018.

November 1, 2017

By Jonathan Singer, Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi

rabbi jonathan singerAt Rosh Hashanah, I spoke to you about returning to the Stone of Losses, about finding our Jewish voice and speaking out for religious pluralism in the State of Israel, something I believe we Bay Area Jews are uniquely positioned to accomplish. Israel, the Jewish miracle of our time, must be a home for the entirety of the Jewish people – Orthodox, Reform, Conservative, Secular, and non-denominational. Unfortunately, we have allowed a small group to dominate religious life in Israel, and ultimately to discriminate against everyone else. However, you will have the opportunity to begin shifting that tide on Thursday night, November 16, by welcoming and engaging with Natan Sharansky – Israeli politician, former refusenik, human rights activist, and the current Chairman of the Executive of the Jewish Agency For Israel – when he speaks from the Emanu-El bimah.

A hero is someone who acts courageously in the face of challenge. Natan Sharansky – as the prisoner of Zion, the most famous of the refusniks – clearly is a heroic figure. A Jewish hero is one who also questions whether or not his actions are just. Sharansky did and continues to do just that. He courageously stood against the oppressive Soviet Regime, which used anti-Semitism as a tool to support its monopoly on power, and his nonviolent resistance lent added inspiration to the Save Soviet Jewry movement. Following his release from Soviet prison in 1986, Sharansky’s work on behalf of the Jewish people continued in earnest. He found himself in Israel, fighting for the rights of Soviet Jewish emigres and their families.

I had demonstrated for Sharansky’s release from Soviet prison while in college in Claremont, California, and I remember his wife Avital speaking poignantly about the need for us to stand together for Jewish freedom. A decade later, I sat at a table near Sharansky when I was part of an emergency delegation standing up for Reform Jewish rights in the midst of an attempt to change the law of return. My hero was sitting with the government group prepared to make that change. It was strange to be there, but it was especially surreal to have to challenge such a hero. But because heroic personalities continuously seek to do justice, Sharansky did listen to us and to many others, and he went on to change his position! He ultimately became an advocate for non-orthodox rights and now heads the Jewish Agency where he tirelessly speaks out for Israel as a home for ALL Jewish people.

It is important that Sharansky be able to return to Israel with a strong message from Bay Area Jews: that we care deeply about Jewish status in the homeland. We want Israel to be a place

where our children are accepted and our rabbis are treated with the dignity that is the right of all free people living in a western democratic state. An Israel that rejects such values will lose its sense of purpose and certainly its connection to American Jewry. I hope that, with the help of our Israel Action Committee and our synagogue partnership with Arza, we will begin to change the attitude of many Israelis who do not understand who we are. Natan Sharansky is our partner in this endeavor. So come and meet him and be part of the change for the health and wellbeing of Klal Yisrael, the entire Jewish people!

October 1, 2017


By Beth Singer, Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi

The Talmud is an extraordinary body of work that consists of over 40 volumes of Jewish civil and ceremonial law and legend. The Talmud is not just read; it is STUDIED. The volumes of the Talmud include the Gemara, a rabbinical commentary on the Mishna and related Tannaitic writings, of different periods throughout Jewish history. What is remarkable about the Talmud is that it is not exclusively written law, but rather an ongoing conversation between rabbis throughout the ages.

And why is the Talmud so voluminous? Because its compilers made an editorial decision to preserve ALL of the arguments—not just those that became law, but also the ones that were rejected. One example is the decision that one candle should be lit on the first night of Chanukah, and then another candle added on each successive night until the entire menorah is illuminated. Another first-century rabbi had made a powerful argument for lighting all eight candles on the first night of Chanukah, then diminishing by one each successive night (although that argument was lost, we study the unpopular opinion to this day).

Talmudic scholar Rabbi Benay Lappe will be at Congregation Emanu-El next February (2/23 through 2/25/18). Rabbi Lappe—who “installed” Cantor Attie—is a remarkable scholar and teacher, so mark your calendar now!

I mention the Talmud with its fierce arguments and disagreements to remind us that the Jewish people—since day one—have represented manifold viewpoints about everything under the sun. “Two Jews, three opinions,” goes the saying. So, it is no surprise that, periodically, we invite speakers to Congregation Emanu-El that leave some congregants either scratching their heads or furious at us. “How could the temple possibly invite so and so!,” we hear. We have congregants who would like us to ban AIPAC and others who wish we would prohibit J Street. Some of our congregants feel our speakers are too liberal while others believe our speakers are not progressive enough. We receive letters from all sides saying that we should not have allowed a particular speaker into our building. Occasionally, some even smear Emanu-El over our choice of speakers in public posts on Facebook. And we sometimes even have speakers that unnerve our clergy!

Here are a few things you should know about our speaker selections:

1) We do have parameters. For example, we do not invite speakers who are white supremacists, Nazis, or members of any group that disavows the right of Israel to exist. There is no place for hate-based thinking within the walls of this congregation.

2) Over the course of a year, we strive to bring in speakers from left, right, and center. Your friends mostly agree with you. Why not hear a viewpoint that makes you uncomfortable?

3) Congregant committees are largely responsible for our speakers. Rarely does a rabbi single-handedly procure a speaker without validation from a group. More often, our Israel Action Group, Tzedek Council, and Adult Salon congregants propose the speakers who come to Emanu-El.

There are times when we will get it wrong. We will invite someone who, in retrospect, should not have been invited; or, vice versa, we will decide not to invite someone whose differing opinion would have been worth hearing. And of course no one is forced to attend any of our lectures or conversations. But I do encourage you to attend the events with speakers that are in opposition to your beliefs, just as the rabbis of the Talmud engaged in vigorous debate and disagreement, all in the name of Jewish vitality.

I once gave a Friday night talk that I knew would be unpopular. So I reminded the congregants, “If you don’t like what the rabbi says on one Friday night, just come back next week!”


Emanu-El Clergy Statement on the violence in Virginia and Minnesota

The clergy of Congregation Emanu-El condemn, in the strongest possible terms, the ongoing horrific display of white supremacist violence in our country. Last week a mosque was bombed in Minnesota. Today a young woman was killed and at least 19 others injured in Virginia in what can only be called an act of domestic terrorism amidst the largest gathering of white supremacists in recent American history. This is the same ideology that inspired a young man to enter a church in South Carolina and murder nine African Americans as they studied Bible.

The ideologies that motivate these movements are abhorrent to Judaism. White supremacy is real and it is absolutely critical that we identify it as such and never engage in any type of moral subjectivism.
White supremacist movements put Jews, people of color, LGBTQ people and ultimately all people at risk of violence. Jewish history demands that we speak out and that we work for a nation that fully rejects hatred in all forms. 
Every morning Jews all around the world recite sim shalom, a blessing for peace that includes the words “through the light of Your Presence You have given us, Adonai our God, a Torah of life–the love of kindness, righteousness, blessing, compassion, life and peace.”
This is our purpose in this world: To be people who bring this vision of a true and just peace into reality for all of us–for all of our lives. May we all be blessed as we continue this struggle for a land of milk and honey for all people, and may those who plot evil and close their ears to God’s call for love and justice find their hearts turned and their eyes opened that they may see this truth that our people has carried with us from Sinai. Kein y’hi ratzon, may this be God’s will.

Emanu-El statement on the anti-Transgender Tweets by President Trump

July 26, 2017
We are deeply indebted to all who choose to serve this great country in our armed forces.
Our people know too well what happens when the arsenal of democracy is diminished and the forces of hate fill the void.
We also know what it means to be asked not to serve – to be discriminated against because of our faith, our ethnic background, and gender identity and the implication then that we are not good enough Americans.
Instead, let this country be a great beacon of acceptance made stronger because we are empowered by our beautifully diverse population.
We ask all people of faith, people who believe in America to encourage our President to soften his heart, reverse his stand on transgender rights and take his places as a leader of the Free World because this is the Land of the Free and the Home of the Brave!
– The Emanu-El Clergy

Women in the Rabbinate
By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Beth Singer

May 1, 2017 


It was a Friday night in August 1973 and the cantor was just concluding the Aleinu prayer.  My bat mitzvah.  My father and I sat together on the bimah (no moms allowed).  My dad whispered, “How are you doing?”  I whispered back, “Kinda sad.  I feel like I spent so much time preparing for this bat mitzvah, and now it is nearly over.”  My dad smiled and whispered back, “Who knows?  Maybe someday you will become a rabbi, Beth, and then you can do bat mitzvahs all the time!”

And that is exactly how the idea took hold.  From that moment on, I could not imagine myself doing anything else but becoming a rabbi.  I loved services.  I loved the Jewish people.  The first American-ordained woman rabbi, Rabbi Sally Priesand, had been ordained one year before my bat mitzvah and was the assistant rabbi in my grandparents’ temple, Stephen Wise Free Synagogue, in New York City.  I wrote to Rabbi Priesand shortly after my bat mitzvah and told her of my dream to become a rabbi like her.  She must have been having a bad day.  Her response, which now resides in the American Jewish Archives, simply said, “Beth, you’re young.  Think about considering other careers!”  Ouch.  But think about it.  It cannot have been easy to be the only woman among male students and faculty throughout five years of rabbinical seminary.  When women were first ordained, senior rabbis, boards of directors and congregants were skeptical of a woman’s ability to serve in this leadership capacity.  As increasing numbers of women were ordained as rabbis, sociologists decried the fact and warned of the “feminization of the rabbinate,” which, to them, equaled a diminution of the stature of the (male) rabbi.

Our country has now ordained women rabbis for forty-five years.  After Rabbi Priesand’s ordination, the Reconstructionist Movement quickly followed suit and eventually the Conservative movement.  A well-regarded Orthodox rabbi in New York started ordaining Orthodox women in 2009.  In 2016, Rabbi Daniel Landes began ordaining Orthodox women in Israel.  The history of women rabbis, dating back to Rabbi Regina Jonas’ ordination in Germany in 1935, is fascinating.  It is all chronicled in a new book that I highly recommend for your home library:  The Sacred Calling:  Four Decades of Women in the Rabbinate.

There are no rabbis in the Torah. In the Talmud, we read of a transformation from prophets to rabbinical sages and scholars.  In the Middle Ages, rabbis took upon themselves the role of judges, acting as legal decisors and arbiters.  The point is that transformations in spiritual leadership within Judaism have occurred since day one.  What is new is the way that many women have transformed the contemporary rabbinate.  The Reform rabbi of my childhood entered the rooms in his black robe and we all stood as he ascended the bimah.  Women rabbis ushered in innovations such as the idea that rabbis are just people with a sacred calling. We strive to be in relationship with our congregants and not removed from them.  We have taught all rabbis the value of work-life balance.  These are just a few of the powerful transformations brought to Judaism by women rabbis.

On May 16th, Cantor Attie and I will be at the Hebrew Union College-Jewish Institute of Religion in Los Angeles to honor professional Jewish women’s leadership.  Think about Cantor Roslyn Barak.  Rabbi Sydney Mintz. Cantor Marsha Attie. Rabbi Gayle Pomerantz,  Rabbi Michal Bourne, Rabbi Helen Cohn. Rabbi Carla Fenves. And me.  As your rabbis and cantors, we are grateful to live in this time, and we hope that you are, too.

Emanu-El Clergy Address Recent Anti-Semitic Acts

– Statement by Emanu-El Clergy (February 23, 2017)

Congregation Emanu-El is proud of our Jewish identity and the fact that we American Jews are an important strand in the fabric that makes up this great nation. We stand together with all people who embrace the peaceful, democratic and just values of this nation and speak out in opposition to hateful acts, whether anti-Semitic like the bomb threats at JCC’s or the attack on the cemetery in St. Louis or any act that is racist, sexist, Islamophobic or homophobic. Those values reflect the Torah’s call to do justice, love mercy and act humbly in our lives while also always acting from the foundational teaching of the book of Genesis, that every person is made in the image of the Divine. They are the values that make up the foundation of this great nation – with all people being created equal and in possession of the unalienable rights of Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness.

We will not tire in our defense of these rights for ourselves and for all those who dwell in our country. Let those who are filled with hate hear our call to turn from such ways and know that we remain committed to an America that lives up to vision of the prophet Micah, that all people “shall sit under vine and under fig-tree; and none shall make them afraid.”

We invite you to join us in one or both of these two important community conversations that address the current political climate in our country:

If Not Now, When: A Tzedek Council Town Hall Conversation: We know that not all but many people in our congregation share a sense of concern about our current political and social climate. If this speaks to you, we hope you will join our Tzedek Council and clergy for a Town Hall forum on Sunday, March 5 from 3:00 – 5:00 pm. Together we will imagine how Emanu-El will continue our proud tradition of Tikkun Olam to bring healing and justice to our broken world. Click here to register.

Jewish Community Relations Council Jewish Community Forum: The JCRC is convening community leaders, policy experts, political pollsters, academics and journalists for a full-day of education and training. This Jewish Community Forum is intended to provide community members with an opportunity to learn effective strategies for advocacy and the powers of government in our participatory democracy. Click here to register.

Turning Jewish values into action

– Statement by Emanu-El Clergy (February 9, 2017)

Dear Friends, 

As clergy of this sacred and diverse congregation, we listen to you. We hear those that are deeply troubled and even frightened by our political climate and the decisions of the new administration. We hear those who are hopeful that positive change is on the horizon. We hear those who struggle with how to explain all of this to your children. We are privileged to hear these many voices as we strive to create a place of respectful, loving and open conversation, rooted in our Jewish values. 

Our role as the spiritual leaders of this community is to both listen and to bring the moral voice of Torah to our lives today. Over the past several weeks we have witnessed an outright attack on many of the values that our Reform Jewish movement holds dear and we feel an imperative to speak out. We are obligated to carry the values that shape our Jewish lives out into the public square now and in the future. As individuals, we will not always agree on the solutions to the problems we share, and we trust that despite this we will remain in sacred relationship with one another, even as we speak publicly about issues that we feel differently about. 

We stand behind the words we shared with you on the day that the executive order regarding refugee and immigration policy was issued: 

The rabbis and cantors of Congregation Emanu-El condemn, in the strongest possible terms, the executive order banning refugees from entering our country. The Torah teaches us that saving a life is the most sacred mitzvah one can perform. It is part of the core of our beliefs as Jews to welcome the stranger, to repair the world, and defend life. It is incumbent upon us as Jews, as Americans, to speak out against anything that could lead to the death of innocents. In making this statement we echo the positions of our partners including the JCRC of San Francisco, HIAS, and the Religious Action Center.  

As we have always done throughout our 160-year history, we will continue to “pray with our feet” as Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel did when he marched with Rev. Martin Luther King Jr. 

Join us in turning our Jewish values into action at these upcoming events: 

    1. Join Rabbi Fenves and Cantor Attie for the HIAS rally marking National Day of Jewish Action for Refugees this Sunday, February 12 at 3 pm. 
    1. Attend the JCRC Community Forum on the current political environment on Sunday, March 19
    1. Attend the Religious Action Center’s Consultation on Conscience in DC from April 30 – May 1
  1. Participate in our ongoing local social justice projects, such as Emanu-El’s collaboration with Hamilton Families to end homelessness in San Francisco by 2020. Thus far Emanuel has sponsored 120 of the identified 800 homeless families.  Look for an upcoming email from our Tzedek Council with more ways to live out our Jewish values in the public square. 

It is so important to participate in tikun olam, (repairing our world) and it is equally vital that we take good spiritual care of ourselves. Join us for prayer and study to ground your soul in our tradition and remember that you are part of something bigger; that you are not alone. 

Be strong and resolute; do not be terrified or dismayed, Adonai is with you wherever you go. -Joshua 1:9

Shabbat Shalom,

Rabbi Beth Singer
Rabbi Jonathan Singer
Rabbi Sydney Mintz
Rabbi Ryan Bauer
Rabbi Carla Fenves 
Rabbi Jason Rodich 
Cantor Marsha Attie
Cantor Arik Luck 

Clergy statement on immigration policy

January 28, 2017

The rabbis and cantors of Congregation Emanu-El condemn, in the strongest possible terms, the executive order banning immigrants from 7 predominantly Muslim nations and all refugees from entering our country. 

The Torah teaches us that saving a life is the most sacred mitzvah one can perform.  It is in that spirit that we release this message as an emergency measure on Shabbat. 
Right now, there is a refugee family at SFO airport being blocked by a new executive order on refugee policy.  Let us never forget the Jews who were turned away from this country, only to be returned to Europe. 
It is part of the core of our beliefs as Jews to welcome the stranger, to repair the world, and defend life.  It is incumbent upon us as Jews, as Americans, to speak out against anything that could lead to the death of innocents.  

Rabbis Jonathan Singer and Ryan Bauer attended the 3:00 pm rally at SFO in defense of this detained refugee family, on behalf of our whole clergy team.  

In making this statement we echo the positions of our partners including the San Francisco JCRCHIAS, and the Reform Movement’s Religious Action Center. For ways you can take action please click here.
We will continue to seek out other ways to help and keep you informed of ways we can act on our Jewish values.

Passover Message
By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Jonathan Singer
April 1, 2017

rabbi jonathan singerAvadim Hayenu” – we will soon be saying these words as we gather around our Passover tables resplendently set with the symbols of the seder. The words – we were slaves – will be emphasized by the horseradish, charoset, and shank bone on the seder plate as well as the matzah, crumbs and all, the bread of affliction, set on a plate of honor. “V- atah bnai chorin (and now we are free)…,” we will continue, and the four cups filled to the brim with wine or juice, and the wonderful holiday foods we will consume will attest to that status. Slavery in Egypt is etched in our communal memory, but so is our miraculous redemption. Now we are free. This year, those words will carry new import as we American Jews, who have felt so blessed to live freely in this great land, are reminded of the midrash that teaches, “we are always leaving Egypt.” With the advent of a new public anti-Semitism in which Jewish cemeteries are attacked and Jewish institutions disrupted by bomb scares, we cannot help being afraid and concerned about our status as Jewish Americans. Some of us may have naively assumed that hatred diminishes over time, that, with progress, anti-Semitism as a force in the west would ultimately disappear.

But our tradition did understand that we are always leaving of freedom does not mean one has reached a messianic age in which hate is eliminated. No, one has to always work to maintain that free status, standing up to Amalek – those who act maliciously as Amalek did while we were making our way through the wilderness. We can and will continue to speak out against all acts of hatred. We can and will continue to assert our right as equal citizens to enjoy the blessings of this country. We can and will demand that the authorities do their job and protect us, while we also join in coalition with others who believe that to be American means to respect the freedom and dignity of all the colors, ethnic groups, genders and sexual orientations that make up the beautiful fabric of this country. Freedom requires focus and protection and commitment and we have all those. In addition, we have many partners who understand this is what America is about and so are also speaking out. But freedom must also be celebrated. So, prepare your Passover tables and purchase matzah to eat while at work. Let your colleagues know that they work in diverse workplaces and we Jews are proud of from whence we came and who we are today. Avadim Hayenu, Atah B’nai Chorin!

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Beth Singer

March 1, 2017


There is a moment in an old episode of Larry David’s TV show, Curb Your Enthusiasm, that stays with me for the sheer darkness of its humor.  Larry learns that his rabbi is bringing a Survivor with him to Larry’s home for dinner and decides to invite a friend of his father’s who is also a Survivor.  Larry’s dad brings his friend, Solly, a Holocaust survivor.   When the rabbi shows up with a young man, Larry is crest fallen.  “Where is the survivor?”  It turns out that the rabbi’s guest is from the TV show Survivor and the hapless rabbi thought it would be nice for the two celebrities to meet.  If you have ever watched “Curb,”  you can only imagine the embarrassing scenes that ensue between the two Survivors.

Saturday, March 11th, we will observe one of our many Survivor-themed holidays, Purim.  See the details inside the Chronicle (on page XX).  Join us Saturday afternoon, March 11th for our fabulous Purim carnival, at 4 pm; for our all congregation Megillah reading and spiel at 6 pm, and Sunday morning at TIME/PLACE for a full Megillah reading.  Why Purim?  The Megillah concludes the tale of the near-miss destruction of the Jewish people of Persia with the injunction that we should always observe this day forevermore with feasting and gladness, and of “sending choice portions,” shelach manot, to one another, and gifts to the poor.  The writers of the Megillah wish us to use this time to remember the days on which “the Jews rested from their enemies, and the month which was turned to them from sorrow to joy, and from mourning to holiday.” (Esther 9:22). Yes, Purim and not Chanukah was our original gift-giving holiday.  It is a lovely tradition for families to bake hamentaschen and deliver them on plates with other sweets to the homes of friends.  It is always important to give thanks for our survival by giving tzedakah to agencies that benefit those who are poor.

Larry David’s crude and clever Survivor episode makes us think about what it means to be a Survivor and what it takes to survive.  In our congregation we have Holocaust survivors, abuse survivors, cancer survivors and many others who have come out the other side of a terrible personal event.  One of the great gifts that Judaism keeps on giving to civilization is the gift of knowledge for a person or people living in the darkest time and place imaginable, survival remains a possibility and a hope.  The other gift of Judaism is the concept of how a Survivor acknowledges survival by making his or her life a life of purpose to do good for others.  This gift alone should compel us to double down on our own efforts to be sure that Judaism continues to thrive and to survive.

Rabbi Rodich and I have the honor and pleasure of teaching our 8th graders. In a recent class on the question of whether or not Judaism will survive assimilation and secularization, one of our 8th graders put it best when he answered the question by saying, “I believe that whether or not Judaism will survive depends completely on us and what we will do with our Judaism, going forward.”  Amen.

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Jonathan Singer
February 1, 2017

In the last hours of the Obama administration, Israel and the peace process, or lack thereof, surprisingly came to the fore with the administration’s decision not to veto a UN vote condemning the spread of the settlements, followed by Secretary of State Kerry’s speech that presented the decision as an effort to save the two-state solution. For some, in a world that is torn by violence, with hundreds of thousands of refugees forced to leave the failed states of Syria, Libya, Iraq and Afghanistan, having lost everything, in search of home and safety in the West, it is hard to understand why the Israeli-Palestinian conflict would yet again be headline news.

And yet, that conflict and its lack of resolution should be of the utmost concern to our community since nearly 85% of world Jewry lives either in Israel or here in North America. Whatever your position concerning President Obama’s last actions in office, or President Trump’s perspective on Israel, if you care about the health and well-being of the Jewish land for peace? Are you only a Zionist if you believe that Israel has to decide what is best for itself, and want AIPAC to lobby in Washington to support the policies of a freely elected Israeli government, the only freely elected government in the Middle East? What if you have no intention of making aliyah to the promised land? Can you remain comfortably here in San Francisco and truly be a Zionist?

From the very first World Zionist Congress led by Herzl in Basel, Switzerland, to the Knesset that governs Israel today, there is not one way to be a Zionist. Zionism, from its foundation, embraced multiple expressions. In a world of complexity, especially when it comes to navigating the labyrinth of the Middle East, divergent opinions need to be shared before essential decisions are made and the Zionist movement embraced competing for political and cultural expressions. Just as Judaism has always encouraged the voicing of different opinions without then accusing the one you disagree with as being an outlier, the vibrant Israel expression of Zionism has nurtured and made room for respectful disagreement and dialogue in which the minority opinion is heard. We believe that it is in dialogue and respectful debate that the new visions of peace, hope and meaning are engendered.

This is why we created the Israel Action Committee at Emanu-El, a synagogue that famously at one point opposed Zionism. The purpose of the committee is to engender in our congregants a feeling of connection with the adventure of Israel, to bring teachers and leaders to share their perspectives, to support Reform Judaism and the embrace of religious pluralism in the Jewish state, and to be enriched as well by Israeli Jewish religious and cultural creativity. We don’t just want to be a big tent that welcomes frontal speakers to share their various perspectives; we also want to be an intellectual center that fosters deeper thought about and connection to both our Zionist (if that is what you are) and Jewish identities. I am grateful that we have had the chance in the past year to learn from Yossi Klein Ha-Levi of the Hartman Institute, Daniel Sokatch of New

Israel Fund, the artist Achinoam Nini and the Hamas rejector, Mosab Hassan Yousef, the Green Prince. This month and the rest of the year will include more opportunities to learn and engage as we welcome Dore Gold, Likud member and former Israeli ambassador to the UN, Bret Stephens of the Wall Street Journal, and study Talmud with Ruth Calderon, the founder of Israel’s first secular yeshiva. Rabbi Bauer will be leading our annual b’nai mitzvah/family trip to Israel, and we will  host, with Federation and Jewish National Fund sponsorship, the city-wide Yom Haatzmaut celebration.

Your Israel Action Committee will continue to work on opportunities for communal dialogue, engagement with artists and Israeli culture, and specialty Israel opportunities for the year to come, and will partner with our Reform Movement’s Zionist organization, ARZA, which has a goal of “taking back the Z”, as they write on their website:, “Zionism should not be divisive. And no one faction should be allowed to dictate ownership and definition of that ’Z word.’  So ARZA is ’TAKING BACK THE Z‘: unapologetic love for Israel, the land, the people and the State, is at the core of our beliefs. Modern Zionism encompasses our values of democracy, pluralism and equality. That love of Israel demands honesty and a commitment to the continuation of building a morally exceptional society.”

If Israel is your interest, whatever your Zionist perspective, I invite you to join our committee. Please send me an email at and I will add you to our mailing list. We need people from diverse Zionist views to participate. As an Israeli leader told me, if you don’t engage the people who are on the ground in Israel, you won’t be an influence and people that you might write off because of your disagreements may be the people who are open to coming around to supporting Reform Jewish life in Israel, or offering new creative ways to bring peace to the region. So join us for an event, a speaker, or take the time, whether you are right, left or center, to help guide the Israel connection at this important time for this essential synagogue

Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Jonathan Singer delivers Martin Luther King Jr. sermon at Third Baptist Church in San Francisco on January 15, 2017.

CHANUKAH: A Time to Help Those in Need
By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Beth Singer
December 1, 2016

BethSingerIf you have ever been in Jerusalem during Chanukah, you may recall two great traditions. In certain neighborhoods when you walk through them at just the right time of evening, every single window has a Chanukiah with candles blazing in the window. It’s such a beautiful sight to see them in all the different apartment windows at once. The other is the tradition of street food vendors walking down the street pushing a cart with a deep vat of hot oil. If you order a sufganiah, they will plop a blob of dough into the vat of oil, pull it out at the exact right moment, inject it with a shot of raspberry jam, roll it in powdered sugar, and hand you the hot, gooey mess to pop into your mouth.

One of the wonderful elements of all Jewish holidays are the ways in which we layer new rituals upon old rituals. The core ritual involves adding an extra light each night of Chanukah. It is traditional to set your Chanukiah up in a window in order to “proclaim the miracle.” Each night, add a new candle from right to left, say or chant the blessings, and then light the newest candle to the left first. It is traditional to eat foods fried in oil, to remember the miracle of the oil. In the United States it became a tradition to give children gifts throughout Chanukah or for all family members to exchange gifts. Each household develops its own tradition around gift-giving.

Before gift giving became popular in the US, parents used to give their children gelt or coins at Chanukah. In some cases, the children got to keep the gelt, but one reason for giving children gelt was to teach them how to give tzedakah donations to others. In that spirit, I encourage our congregants to re-embrace the concept of giving to others and “using” Chanukah to teach our children how to give to others. I specifically encourage all of us to participate in our own Jewish Family and Children’s Service (JFCS) opportunities for giving. JFCS is a remarkable organization that “walks the talk” of caring for the widow, the stranger and the orphan, as we are commanded throughout the Torah. JFCS makes it easy for each of us to be great Jews by partnering with them to take care of those in our own community who are in greatest need.

#1 Let’s all give to the JFCS Chanukah Food Drive. Bring nutritional food to share each time you come to Temple and look for the JFCS bins. Please shop for the food drive the way you would shop for your own household. Donate the best and not the dented cans of pineapple that have been sitting at the back of your pantry! Too many Emanu-El food donation bins are filled with food you would never serve your own family. The Torah instructs us to bring our best for this purpose.

#2 On Friday, December 16th from 4-7 help assemble holiday food bags full of festive foods that will be delivered to new emigres and people with disabilities.

#3. On Sunday, December 18th help deliver Chanukah bags to seniors, people with disabilities and families in need. Don’t you love that idea that Chanukah can provide an opportunity for each one of us, at any age, to remember how to give to others? I do!

Our synagogue is so proud to support both the JFCS food pantry as well as the SF-Marin Food Bank. Each serves a different clientele. There are homeless and low-income Jews in this community whose needs are cared for by our donations to JFCS. We take seriously our commitment to feeding hungry Jews and everyone else who needs good food to eat. I’m always interested to know about the traditions you add to your own Chanukah observance. If you participate in any or all of the three JFCS initiatives, let me know how it goes.

Happy Chanukah!


By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Jonathan Singer
November 1, 2016

rabbi jonathan singerWhew…. By the time this drops on your doorstep, they will be over! Not the contentious elections but the High Holy Days. Yes, we as a community do look forward to those days of awe and coming together as a reunion of the tribe, and the opportunity to focus on renewing our lives paths. But they were late this year, so to speak, and now that it is November, we can focus on being in the new year and the day-to-day and week-to-week wonderful challenge of living the better lives we envisioned during those days of repentance.

In all of November and most of December, we have no holidays on which to focus except that which our tradition teaches is actually the most important of all…. Shabbat. Now that you are done planning break the fasts, Sukkot celebrations, and dancing with the Torah, and you have two months till Chanukah, you can focus on giving yourself the gift of Shabbat. We know that Shabbat is something that you, as busy Bay Area residents trying to re-imagine the world, plan your children’s ultimate success from the moment they get out of the cradle, or jump from event to event as empty nesters, really need. So let’s get started!

One of the best things you can do to help your life, and bring in Shabbat is to plan ahead, purchasing Shabbat candles at any local store, a challah, and a favorite wine of your choice (I have to make kiddush over Manischewitz, but then switch to a nice cab or zin). Set the table Thursday night with a white cloth and dress it with your nicest dinnerware and kiddush cups. When you come home after services, undo that tie, and be in Shabbat by resting and engaging your loved ones and friends over a nice Shabbat dinner.

Daylight Savings Time ends on November 6th and so ourdays grow shorter. Lighting Shabbat candles brings the light of joy and hope into your home, as we live more in darkness. Saying the prayer, l’hdalik Ner Shel Shabbat, declares that this moment, with this light of peace, is now your moment of rest and blessing. At the very least, start this Shabbat practice – kibbel Shabbat– Receive Shabbat, and do so wherever you may be — at home, on a trip, in a restaurant with friends. Don’t be shy, and don’t think it is weird, but start a Shabbat ritual practice!

Last month, in the midst of a clergy meeting, a younger member came in and gave all of the clergy a beautiful gift, a beautiful Traveling Shabbat Kit. You can find it on He told us that whenever he is traveling, and brings out the kit, people are so grateful to have those moments of sanctifying time, as Rabbi Abraham Joshua Heschel taught, with a short ritual acknowledging that life is filled with wonder, with holiness, and that the Shabbat pause helps us to stop and just be aware of the many blessings this life gives us.

Yes, the High Holy Days are over, now be renewed in this year. Help yourself to receive Shabbat!

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Beth Singer
October 1, 2016

BethSingerIf you are holding this October Chronicle in your hand, then the High Holy Days are upon us! Perhaps you are new to Judaism, going through the cycle of holy days for the first time.
Welcome. Or maybe you just joined Congregation Emanu-El and this is your first time experiencing the multitude of opportunities for communal spiritual gathering here under the dome.
I hope you enjoy the excitement of all of us coming together, the exuberant clergy, the diverse musical experience, the Tzedek Social Justice Expo where you can sign up to do good and important social justice work in our community this coming year, and all the opportunities for self-reflection and spiritual growth that are available to you as we ring in the Jewish year 5777.

If you just celebrated your Bat or Bar Mitzvah, this may be your first time fasting. You can do it! If you are a middle or high school student, this might be your first time sitting 
through services and not going to child care. We are proud of you. One of the beautiful things about the synagogue is that new people are always coming in the doors and our small children of yesterday become our newest full community participants of today and tomorrow.

For many of us, we have been around this block before. Year after year, we renew our annual commitment to Congregation Emanu-El. We receive the tickets and the lists of services. We figure out the service styles and times that work for us. Choose some nice clothes. Maybe white for Yom Kippur, perhaps even some white sneakers to honor the tradition of no leather or ostentatiousness on the holiest day of our year. Figure out the parking strategy. Plan a nice meal before or after. What will the rabbi speak about this time? It can be easy to fall into a comfortable routine It can be easy to fall into a comfortable routine around these holidays. It can even be an annual “feel good” moment of reconnecting with the congregation, and the people you only see this time of year. We want you see this time of year. We want you to feel good, but the High Holy Days truly offer a deeper opportunity for second chances. Is there a person you have fallen out of touch with this past year or years? Is there a relationship you once cherished that needs mending?

Do you harbor ambivalence about God, Israel or organized religion? If yes, then the High Holy Days are perfect for you! But don’t approach them in any kind of rote manner. Use them as they are meant to be used, as an opportunity for second chances and new beginnings. We turn a page on the calendar. You, too, can turn a page in your own life story.


We want you to come to services and delve into our brand new Reform High Holy Day machzor/prayer book. It’s fabulous. But we also hope that the music, the readings and the sermons will inspire you to make some necessary tweaks and changes in your life this coming year. Use some of your time in the sanctuary to make a list of the repairs you need to make. Pick one or two or three broken parts of your life you can strive to fix. Use the days between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur, or even all the way to Simchat Torah, to decide how you will redirect your life this coming year. Who do you need to talk to? Where has your own ego gotten in the way of your best self? What can and cannot be repaired in terms of your relationships?

Judaism teaches that when we transgress against God, the Day of Atonement atones, but when we transgress against people in our lives, the Day of Atonement does not atone until we have made every effort to make those repairs directly with the people in our lives. Judaism, and especially the High Holy Days are designed to give us second chances. Optimize your

experience of these Holy Days and you will feel the reward year after year. Shana tova.
A sweet, healthy new year to you and to our community.

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Jonathan Singer
September 1, 2016

rabbi jonathan singerTime is relative. The New Year – Rosh Hashanah – is late this year! We have this month of September to prepare ourselves for the Days of Awe, which begin on October 2. Jewish tradition provides a special means to get ready by making this Hebrew month of Elul, a month of preparation, through contemplation, study and prayer. It is customary during this time to hear the sound of the shofar each morning, and then spend part of your day considering how this next year may be better. What changes will you make in your life, who will you help, how will you grow?

One change we would like you to consider as you bring in the New Year is to make this year the year of Shabbat in your life and in the life of your family. One thing we have noticed as we have engaged with you here at Emanu-El, is how busy, overscheduled, and at times frazzled San Franciscans are. Between trying to change the world through advances in technology, educate your children, engage in all the amazing activities the Bay Area has to offer, heal the world, or just hang in there, depending how you choose to live your life, you are left little time for contemplation, for connection with community, for renewal of the self, and to become aware of the miracles around you.

We have reached one conclusion – Emanu-El members need one day a week to rest, to connect, to turn off work, to contemplate, and to share the joy of a meal with loved ones. You need Shabbat! The Torah teaches us that even God had to take a break.

As your clergy team, we want to spend this year exploring what Shabbat can mean for you. We know that the meaning of Shabbat will be different for different people – a Shabbat meal together with family and friends, coming to synagogue for some, scheduling a Shabbat hike, turning off all email for others. What we want is help you explore how Shabbat can be impactful for the twenty-first century San Franciscan.

Our first step is to make sure that there is a Kabbalat Shabbat service that you can get to. Kabbalat in this form, means receiving – bringing in Shabbat – so you can breathe deep and begin to renew your soul. We know services are not for everyone, but we are trying to have a one-hour service time that will speak to many of you. We have added a “late” One Shabbat on the first Friday of the month at 7:30pm for those of you who work late. Like other One Shabbats, the service will be very musical with contemporary flair and contemplative melodies of the tradition, a dvar Torah, and oneg. We will also have a Classic Service on the same evening at 6:00 pm in the Main Sanctuary, which is beautiful, contemplative and moving, and still designed to get you out just after 7:00 pm so you can enjoy the city or relax at home.

And we are now offering a 5:30 First Friday Under Five for families with young children followed by a dinner on the first Friday night of the month.The rest of the month we will have beautiful One Shabbat services as well as the Late Shabbat, which attracts hundreds of young people, on the second Friday of the month.

Throughout the year, we will offer classes on how to make Shabbat dinner, introduction to prayer, an Emanu-El shares Shabbat dinner program, Shabbat retreats and hikes — many different ways for you to connect to this most beautiful Jewish gift to the world. We would love some of you to be Shabbat Captains, inviting others to join you for one or two Shabbats a month. Stay tuned for many Shabbat learning and engagement opportunities, but begin by noting in your Fall calendars – the one on your phone and the one you keep for your family –some way that you will set aside time for Shabbat. You and we will be the better for it!

Happy Early New Year,
Rabbi Jonathan Singer
Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Beth Singer
August 1, 2016

BethSingerMany people do not know this about me, but I was born into a family of staunch conservative Republicans. It was like our family was part of some endangered species at our Temple in southern California, where virtually everyone else was a registered Democrat. Speaking purely anecdotally, Reform temples provide a Jewish, spiritual home to a large number of Democrats, a handful of Republicans, a sprinkling of Independents, Green Party members, and Libertarians. Even here at Emanu-El, some of our congregants are with Hillary, others want to make America great again with Trump, still others will never cease feeling the Bern and many are terrified of what will be, come this November.

Congregation Emanu-El strives to be a Jewish spiritual home for anyone who wants a Jewish spiritual home, regardless of one’s party affiliation. We are too small a people to exclude anyone based on their political party affiliation.

As a 501(c)3 nonprofit organization, it is against our tax exempt status for us to support one party over another, one candidate over another or to endorse any one individual for of ceo. We do take positions on issues which are consistent with fundamental Jewish values and teachings. Judaism teaches that we are all created in the Divine Image, so we are sensitive to bigotry and discrimination against any of God’s creations. These days, we focus on racial equality, LGBTQ equality and combating anti-Semitism. Judaism teaches that we were strangers in Egypt and so we have a special affinity for immigrants and refugees. We have partnered with the Hebrew Immigrant Aid Society Welcome Campaign to advocate for refugees who are seeing unspeakable, life- threatening conditions. The most vulnerable in the Torah were the orphan, the widow and the stranger.

Today, we stand up for homeless people, impoverished individuals, and underfed children. Depending on the orientation of our political affiliations, we may not always agree on the best way to remedy these social issues, but we agree that we are a strong, powerful community who will not stand idly by in the face of injustice or bigotry.

As you are aware, our Tzedek Social Justice Council sponsors a wide variety of initiatives and programs so that our congregation will be a voice, locally and nationally, and so that we can work together as a synagogue community in areas of human rights, education, economic justice, mental health and the environment. We want members of every political party to work collectively on these issues.

The upcoming election feels fraught. There is tremendous uncertainty about which way the election will go. I have heard numerous people express a sense of dread and helplessness. Even though the synagogue will not be campaigning for any particular candidate, you can! Be sure you are registered to vote and that everyone you know is properly registered. This is our rst election since some basic voter rights were stripped away in a Supreme Court decision, so nd out how you can engage in ways to make sure everyone in our country who can vote is able to vote. Educate yourself on the November ballot issues. Join us here at Emanu-El on September 7th for a JCRC-sponsored educational forum with the candidates for the public school board. Connect yourself to a Tzedek Council initiative. Find opportunities on our website and at the social justice expo that will take place on Yom Kippur.

Most importantly, just as your synagogue is radically welcoming of those who believe in God and those who do not, and of Jews and non-Jews, we ask you to make space at the Temple for diverse congregant political viewpoints other than your own. Do not assume that the person next
to you plans to vote as you plan to vote or agrees with you on every issue. If a rabbi gives a sermon with which you disagree, make time to share your perspective with the rabbi. I told you that my parents were Republicans. So, what does that make me? Your rabbi.

Remembering Elie Wiesel
By Emanu-El Clergy
July 3, 2016

Congregation Emanu-El mourns the tremendous loss of a shining star, Elie Wiesel.  His survival was a gift to all humanity. At Congregation Emanu-El we dedicate ourselves to carrying forward his prophetic message of hope.  The man is gone, but his light shines on in our sacred synagogue work.  In the words of Rabbi Jonathan Sacks:  “Elie Wiesel gave voice to the voiceless victims of the Holocaust and bore witness in the name of humanity to one of the greatest crimes against it.  He was the voice of memory when others sought to forget, and of defiant hope in the face of despair.  He spoke for an entire murdered generation, and did so with dignity, humanity and grace.  He was a great survivor, a great Jew, and a great humanitarian.  His work was a blessing, so may his memory be.”   Zecher tzadik livracha.  Let us always remember this righteous man.

Statement About the Devastating Act of Terror in Orlando
By Emanu-El Clergy
June 12, 2016

We, your rabbis and cantors of Congregation Emanu-El, join you in expressing grief, outrage, shock and horror at this morning’s devastating act of terror and hate in Orlando, Florida.

We join in the chorus of voices from around our nation calling for so much: the transformation of our culture of violence into a culture of love and justice, a renewed effort to pass gun control laws that would have prevented this terrorist from accessing tools of destruction, a firm and unapologetic stance against all fundamentalist religious violence, and a reaffirmation of our love for our Muslim sisters and brothers, the vast majority of whom reject this violence along with us.

During this month of pride, this violence, targeted at LGBT people, feels particularly frightening for the LGBT and allied communities, many of whom call Emanu-El a place of home, safety and refuge.

As a Jewish community with so many strong ties to Israel, we know this fear and pain all too well. Our hearts also go out to the families who lost loved ones in the terror attack in Tel Aviv. In an instant, innocent people out for an evening with families and friends were killed by those who wrongly believe force will help their views hold sway. Instead we become more determined to stand up for our rights as Jews and promote peace and freedom for all.

Today is Shavuot, the festival during which we celebrate Matan Torah, the giving of Torah at Mt. Sinai. This was a moment when truth sparked for all to see. It sparks for us, again, here and now. Today we cling tightly to our Torah; our Torah that paints a vibrant, bright and beautiful picture of what community can and should be. We cling tightly to our Torah that cries out to each of us now, tzedek, tzedek tirdof, be in bold and relentless pursuit of justice!

The prophet Micah imagines a future in which “they shall sit under vine and under fig-tree; and none shall make them afraid” We refuse to accept a reality of fear and violence. We share our tradition’s prophetic vision for our future, and in our grief and heartache commit ourselves to the hard work of making it a reality.

Rabbi Beth Singer
Rabbi Jonathan Singer
Rabbi Sydney Mintz
Rabbi Ryan Bauer
Rabbi Carla Fenves
Rabbi Jason Rodich
Cantor Marsha Attie
Cantor Arik Luck

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Jonathan Singer
May/June/July, 2016

rabbijonathanAs a rabbi, I am thrilled with the diversity of artists, thinkers and political perspectives about Israel that we as the Emanu-El community have had a chance to learn from and engage with this past year. Our Israel Action Committee, Adult Learning Salon, along with your clergy have worked hard to insure that people like Stav Shafir, Knesset member and rising star in the Labor party and Ron Dermer, current Israeli Ambassador to the United States and leader in the Likud Party, have been given a forum to share their perspectives on Israel and hear back from our community in return. This month we will have an opportunity on Israel Independence Day to just celebrate Israel and be entertained by the formerly Hassidic reggae and beatbox star Matisyahu. In the fall the leading Israeli folk star Noa will perform here as well!

Unfortunately, besides being Jewish the one thing the two artists above have in common is that they have been boycotted because of their identity and connection to Israel. Matisyahu was disinvited from performing at a Spanish music festival in response to pressure from the BDS movement, only to finally later be re-invited when the uproar that this was an act of anti-Semitism – boycotting an American Jew because he would not side with BDS, became overwhelming. Achinoam Noa had the awful experience of having the Jewish National Fund in Canada withdraw their sponsorship of her performance at an Israel gathering because they incorrectly accused her of supporting the BDS movement only to have the Israeli government step in and replace their funding.

Both actions reflect an illness in our world – one that we at Emanu-El have and will continue to stand up against- the desire when it comes to Israel to isolate ideas and people you disagree with, shutting down respectful conversation and refusing to see the presence of God – that reflection of the holy in the one in front of you. We, your clergy, acknowledge that our members have different perspectives about how Israel might achieve peace in that difficult region. It is essential to us that under our beautiful dome we, as a diverse community, be able to share different visions of how the hard questions about Israel’s future may be answered. It is an essential value of both Jewish tradition and American freedom, that people be able to share ideas respectfully, learn from speakers with different points of view and then reach their own conclusions.

At Congregation Emanu-El we will continue to welcome and encourage our members to engage a wide range of Zionist organizations and Jewish leaders as long as they support the right of the Jewish state to flourish in peace. I for one, am grateful for AIPAC and its work to support Israel in congress, JStreet and its efforts to actively engage the peace process, Friends of the IDF, who support Israeli soldiers on the front lines of the conflict, The New Israel Fund as it tries to build bridges to peace, Rabbis for Human Rights and their work of conscience, The San Francisco JCRC and their tireless efforts to stop the isolation of Israel and anyone who is willing serve in the Knesset!

If we are going to remain a leading synagogue in the country, then we have to model true Jewish dialogue and interaction. A living Judaism is an engaged and open Judaism that respects other opinions. An honest Judaism whether it comes to prayer, belief in God, or how to vision the future of the promised land knows that no one group has a monopoly on truth or the right way forward. We as a center of Bay Area Judaism can show that there is strength in diversity – it is something to be embraced and not feared!

So let us engage, learn from each other, at times agree to disagree, but then let us also celebrate. We live in amazing times – there is a state of Israel thriving like a beautiful Joshua tree shooting up from the desert floor. Its existence is an amazing thing to behold. There is much to rejoice in its democracy, vibrancy and determination to thrive in a world that is not always welcoming. So, come this month and join us as we partner with multiple Jewish organizations and celebrate Israel Independence Day on Wednesday, May 11. Hear a reading from the independence scroll and be entertained by Matisyahu. If there is a protester or two give them a flower and invite them to join us in prayers for peace. Additionally, stay tuned for Noa coming to share her artistry with us in November.

And let us, in the words of Matisyahu, keep praying for peace:

All my life I’ve been waiting for

I’ve been praying for

For the people to say

That we don’t wanna fight no more

They’ll be no more wars

And our children will play

One day (one day), One day (one day)

One day (one day), One day (one day)

One day (one day), One day (one day)

Let me know how we are doing and even though your perspective may be different from mine, let me know how we could do it better! I welcome your responses by email to

By Richard and Rhoda Goldman Senior Rabbi Rabbi Beth Singer
April, 2016

BethSingerI thought it a genuine possibility that I might get stabbed. Whenever I travel to Israel, I always have this moment as the plane is landing at Ben Gurion Airport where I calmly consider my fate. Random stabbings have been the terrorist tactic of choice recently in Israel. We hear about them on the news and usually it is a lone person striking out against a civilian or a soldier on the street. I refuse to stop coming to Israel out of fear. I have too many dear friends and family who refuse to visit Israel, and that means the terrorists have scored some points. When I catch my taxi into Tel Aviv from the airport, I instantly remember how life goes on every day for Israeli Jews, Palestinian Arabs and everyone else. I take a long walk along the tayellet – the boardwalk that hugs the Mediterranean coast. I see Jews dressed in religious garb strolling along. I see Israeli surfer dudes carrying their boards, two men holding hands, scores of ridiculously fit and healthy Jewish Israelis, Palestinian women, Arab families. I never see these images in any media. There are terrible problems in Israel, both in regard to the Palestinian-Israel conflict as well as more internal Israeli problems than I could list in one Chronicle essay. I had accepted a gracious invitation to join the San Francisco Jewish Community Federation on a special trip to Israel in March. Our congregant, Danny Grossman, CEO of the Federation, teamed up with the remarkable Varda Rabin to bring a group of Bay Area Jewish professional and lay leaders on the Irving Rabin Community Building Trip. Every day was filled with powerful opportunities to learn about some of the work that our community funds in Israel.

One day in particular stands out because of three individuals we met. In the Negev desert, we visited the town of Yerucham and took a guided tour of the town with the charismatic, energetic mayor, Michael Biton. Rabbi Jonathan and I had visited this development town when we were juniors in college and, at that time, it was a depressing place. Now, however, the mayor has implemented his grand vision and the town has developed in ways we never could have imagined when we visited in the 1980s. He has put his major focus into education for the community and worked hard to secure funding to support this. He is investing in the young adults of his community so that they don’t leave, and he is encouraging community gardens, recycling and greening the city. This man is so passionate, I can’t wait to bring our congregants to Yerucham in the next 10 years to see what develops there. We next visited a Bedouin village’s experimental farm. Yusuf, a Bedouin farmer, shared his compelling story. He sat the village elders at the same table with young tech people and, together, they created a project which combined thousands of years of proven farming techniques with the latest knowledge in high tech farming, and the result is promising. Yusuf devotes his life to improving the quality of life for the Bedouin community in his area.

Finally, we went on the visit that was the most uncomfortable for the majority of the group, including me. We drove to a Jewish community that exists right on the border with Gaza. There was not just one security fence, but multiple fences for multiple security reasons. The first thing our guide did was have the bus pull up to the edge of the community. We could clearly see a Hamas outpost with green Hamas flags flying, that had been erected just five days ago. It was impossible to sit on that bus at that moment and not feel like an easy target. We met with one resident of the community. He showed us that there are bomb shelters every few feet and at every school bus stop. Raz, the Israeli resident of the town, explained that when Israel negotiated land for peace with Egypt, his entire village was relocated here, securely inside the undisputed part of Israel, near Gaza. He talked about the psychological terror of raising a family in this place. But, he noted, it is legitimately part of the State of Israel and there is no reason not to live there ̶ except that Hamas’s goal is to rid Israel of all its Jewish citizens. But they continue to live and raise their children in Moshave Netiv Ha-Asarah. It was actually totally peaceful during our visit, but Raz did mention that they can feel the vibrations of the tunnels that Hamas is building right now for the next round of terror.

On our final night in Tel Aviv, a wave of stabbings occurred in three different cities, including where our group has spent the majority of our time. It was devastating to be so close and to hear the news of more terrorism against innocent people. But the point of the terrorism is to shut down the State of Israel, and so, like all the Israelis, we recited Kaddish, sang for peace and continued our community building journey. One highlight of this trip for me (besides just being in Israel which is always magical), was the opportunity to connect with so many great synagogues and organizations that are our communal partners in building Jewish life here in the Bay Area. Congregation Emanu-El board member, Dale Boutiette, was also on the trip, along with congregant Ben Tulchin, representing Jewish Vocational Services, and Abby Porth, representing the Jewish Community Relations Council. Rabbi Jonathan and I came to Emanu-El for the express purpose of Jewish community building. Let’s roll up our sleeves, we’ve got work to do!

By Rabbi Beth Singer
March, 2016

My favorite words in the entire Torah are spoken between Jacob and his brother Esau during their highly emotional reunion. Jacob gazes at his brother and exclaims, “To see your face is to see the face of God.” (Genesis 33:10) Isn’t that such a powerful idea? I try to let it guide my every interaction with another person. When we take time to look at another person we can discover the Divine Image within each person we meet. As a rabbi, I meet an astonishing number of people. At Rabbi Jonathan’s and my previous synagogue, the membership grew steadily during our years there, so we met new people along the way. By the time we finished our 18 year-tenure, we knew the vast majority of our members.We had performed countless numbers of baby namings, b’nei mitzvah, weddings, funerals and unveiling services so we really knew them.There were already about 2,100 families here at Emanu-El when we arrived. I will always remember my first High Holy Days, looking out at the filled main sanctuary, recognizing perhaps twenty or thirty people at most. The staff at Emanu-El set up weekly opportunities for us to meet congregants in groups of 30 or 40 during our first year and a half here.

Each Friday night when we are here, Rabbi Jonathan stands at the front entrance greeting each person who shows up for services. Each Sunday morning when I am here, I greet each religious school family as they arrive for school. We have met so many people. I love gazing at each face because I really do “see the face of God” in each person I meet. But I joke to myself, “To see your face is to see the face of God, but (comic pause) could you remind me of your name?!” Every day I work to learn not just the names of each of you, but your stories as well. All of our clergy make ourselves available to any and all congregants who want us to know them better. We all have congregants who come to our offices to share their stories. Your stories of who you are increase our ability to see the face of God in you.

I have been on both sides in the “what’s your name again?” scenario. I have had the experience of continuously reintroducing myself to a person only to have them greet me each time as if we had never before met. Because I know I have unfortunately done the same to others, maybe even to you, I try to have compassion on such seemingly absent minded people. I am not absent-minded. It simply takes me time to put together so many names and faces. Although it is especially frustrating when your rabbi does not seem to recognize you, I think that al the members of our very large congregation face the challenge of coming to Emanu-El services and programs where we all see people we do not recognize. We don’t know whether they are guests or new members or long-time members whom we simply do not recognize. Many of us possess a natural reserve. When we arrive at the Temple, we seek out the one familiar face and only engage with that person.

Most Friday nights toward the end of the oneg, I meet an individual or couple who shares with me that not one single person spoke to them the whole night. I think that we all have work to do to see –ourselves – not just our clergy – as ambassadors who help each person, couple, and family feel more welcome. If you have ideas how we might do this more intentionally, or if you are willing to come occasionally just to facilitate introductions at onegs, please contact me. If you want me or another rabbi or cantor to know you better, come to services or programs and make an appointment with any or all of us. Emanu-El is a sacred community. Whenever we enter the building, may we look into the faces of those we know and those we do not know or recognize and see the face of God.